Kelly Rutherford wasn’t happy with a family court ruling which resulted in her son Hermes, 3, spending 50 percent of his time with Rutherford and 50 percent with her ex-husband, Daniel Giersch. Daughter Helena, 9 months, is with Rutherford more often but will spend an increasing amount of time with her father as she gets older. Rutherford thinks more women judges are needed in family courts, especially ones who have been through divorces themselves.
“A male judge who was retiring after spending his entire career in family law didn’t agree with me that it was important for Hermés to be able to bond with his baby sister … I hope that as more women become judges — and as more divorced women become judges — the family courts will change.”
Rutherford gave a cover interview to Working Woman magazine and spoke openly about handling divorce when children are involved.
On trying therapy: “I saw red flags, but I was in love … We tried therapy. I stayed in the marriage as long as I could so that I could look at my son and say that I tried everything.”
On why she left: “I realized staying would have been unhealthy for the children,” but she is “certainly not advocating divorce.”
On being a working mom: “You need to figure out what kind of mom you want to be and then find a way to be that mom. My mom worked, but it felt like she was always there for us.”
Rutherford also says new mother often need additional support from their husbands, but unfortunately don’t always get it.
“If you’re not getting that, if you’re not getting support, if your partner isn’t honoring you, then you need to think about the fact that you’re setting that example for your kids.”