Kristin Cavallari's Advice for New Parents: "Don't Beat Yourselves Up" if There's No Time for RomanceShana Aborn
Valentine’s Day is still a couple of weeks off, but Kristin Cavallari helped kick off the season of romance by participating in the Chicago leg of Gillette’s 16-city “Kiss & Tell Online Social Experiment” event.
In the event, couples are asked to kiss each other both before and after the men give their faces a close Gillette shave. The ladies then decide whether a smooch is better with or without stubble.
The results will be revealed on Valentine’s Day. “My guess is that they prefer clean-shaven,” says Kristin. “I do. When you kiss a guy with stubble, your chin gets rubbed raw!”
Fortunately, that’s rarely a problem for the TV personality and her fiance, Bears quarterback Jay Cutler. She doesn’t even have to drop hints about his face getting scratchy. “Every time it gets to that point, he takes care of it,” she says.
Romance is a priority for Kristin and Jay, even though their lives have been made busier and happier with the arrival of baby Camden five and a half months ago. “The relationship is what you started off with, so you don’t want it falling through the cracks,” she says. “You need to take time for date night or just cooking together after the baby is in bed.”
The couple has the advantage of a ready babysitter: One of Jay’s sisters lives in Chicago, so she’s happy to pitch in when her bro and his fiancee need a night to themselves.
Still, Kristin recognizes that couple-time can be hard to come by when you have a newborn, despite all best intentions. Her advice? “Don’t beat yourselves up,” she says. “The first few months you’re just so tired, you just want to get into bed. Don’t beat yourselves up – just enjoy every moment with your baby. It does get easier!”
She speaks from experience. Now that he’s almost at the half-year mark, little Camden is sleeping most of the way through the night (“sometimes we have to get up and give him a pacifier”) and doing adorable things like cutting his first tooth and trying solids. When he got his first taste of mashed peas and carrots, “he had this worried look on his face – almost disgusted,” Kristin recalls. “Then he did this shaking thing that was hilarious!”
Kristin relishes motherhood; “it’s more fun than I thought it was going to be,” she says. “It’s the best thing in the world.” Does that mean a little brother or sister for Camden is in the planning? Maybe not right away. “I have no idea. I change my mind every day,” she explains, adding that since she just stopped breastfeeding, the idea of going right back to maternity wear and pumping isn’t foremost on her mind.
“But we’ll have another one,” she vows.
Any new-parent relationship advice you want to share with her?
[Photo: Daniel Boczarski / Getty Images for Gillette]
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