When mama Meryl Streep talks, we drop everything we do and listen.
The Hollywood actress was recently at Indiana University to pick up an honorary doctorate and spoke about how women shouldn’t worry about their weight; they should focus on their uniqueness instead. Speaking to a group of aspiring performers, she said:
“For young women, I would say, don’t worry so much about your weight. Girls spend way too much time thinking about that, and there are better things. For young men, and women, too, what makes you different or weird, that’s your strength. Everyone tries to look a cookie-cutter kind of way and actually the people who look different are the ones who get picked up. I used to hate my nose. Now I don’t. It’s OK.”
Truth be told, we are our harshest critic, and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a woman whether she’s tall, short, thin, round, brunette, or blond who’s 100 percent satisfied with her reflection in the mirror (unless your name is Angelina Jolie). While it’s difficult to silence that inner critic, we can’t help but compare ourselves to others or base our worth on a scale of self-confidence that goes up as much as it goes down. As horrible as it sounds, it’s what being a woman is all about and anyone who says that they’ve never thought about their appearance is flat out lying.
And while I would love to walk around makeup free everywhere I go, I know that’s not how I want to present myself to society. And yes, I know I shouldn’t worry about my weight as much as I do. Just like Meryl says, I know I should celebrate my uniqueness and quiet down that self-critic in me who can’t stop pointing out all of my flaws. The other day I deleted a series of photos my kids took of me on my iPhone just because I didn’t like the angle of my nose. I mean, I deleted photos that my kids enjoyed taking of me because in my mind, I looked less than perfect in a pic that no one else will probably ever see.
I’m not only doing a disservice to myself, but to my children as well.
With that being said, I’m going to make a promise to myself (and to Meryl) that I’m not going to worry about my weight so often, and I’m also never going to delete an iPhone photo of myself, no matter how bad I think I look. Because at the end of the day, appearance is important, but it shouldn’t define who we are. I mean, I’m not a walking selfie of myself, am I?
Photos via PacificCoastNews.com
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