Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar make time for each other, which isn’t really that big of a surprise considering they are pregnant with their 19th child.
Jim Bob says no matter how many kids he and Michelle have, they will always make time for one another.
He said, “One of our goals is to encourage other families and parents that their marriage can be strong even if they have kids.”
He added, “We have a weekly date, even if it is just to take a walk in the park. We will go out to lunch or dinner and talk together about the kids, upcoming events, what we have coming up.”
Jim Bob admits, like any other couple, they have disagreements, but they try to focus on the positives rather than the negatives.
“It is easy to think of the things that are bothering you more often than the things that are wonderful,” Jim bob admits. “It’s important to remember those things about your spouse and think about those things. A great rule of thumb is to say 10 nice things to every one critical thing.”
He added, forgiveness is an important aspect.
“We asked an Amish couple we met who had been married 50 years what the most important thing to know about marriage was. And, they told us, the most important thing to say is, ‘I was wrong and will you please forgive me.’ Each one of us tries to humble ourselves before the other and be willing to admit mistakes.”
The reality TV father says having kids adds another element and challenges to the relationship. “I never had an anger problem until I had kids, he said, laughing.
“Michelle has the best example of having a soft response and showing that to the kids. I ask them to point out to me if I’m losing my temper.”
The Duggars also like to give lots of praise and encouragement to their huge brood.
“We have purposed to compliment our children – we do that on outward beauty and what is wonderful about them inside. And we do that with each other as well.”
It all sounds so perfect, doesn’t it?