Nicole Kidman on Tom Cruise, Starting Over and the Baby Who Healed HerShana Aborn
Normally quiet about her personal matters, Nicole Kidman opens up in the new issue of DuJour magazine about her childhood, her marriage to Tom Cruise and her life today.
“I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my life,” says the actress, who’s currently filming the biopic Grace of Monaco (and who better to play the gorgeous and elegant Grace Kelly?).
It’s a bliss she once thought she had with Tom Cruise, but in retrospect, she sees their life very differently now. Back when they were first dating, she was utterly “smitten” with the charismatic star. “I was reeling with Tom. I would have gone to the ends of the earth for him,” she says. “I was so impulsive and naive.”
But their life as a power couple forced them to close off from the rest of the world. “We were in a bubble, just the two of us,” she says. “We became very dependent on one another.” Then the life she thought was “perfect” suddenly came apart when Tom announced he was leaving shortly after their 10th anniversary.
To the press, she put on a brave face. Privately, she admits, “It took a very long time for me to heal. It was a shock to my system.”
Yet Nicole was still open to the hope of sharing her life with someone again – a realization that came to her when she won her Academy Award for The Hours with only her parents in the audience. She found happiness again when she met country star Keith Urban.
“My life changed,” she says. “He is a wonderful, caring man and he makes me feel secure. We don’t ever like to be separated.” Case in point: Although they make their home in Nashville, Keith will soon be flying to Nice, France, to join his wife and daughters while Nicole films the Kelly movie.
But the real turning point for the Oscar-winner was the arrival of Sunday Rose in 2008. “Having my baby has been a healing experience,” she says. “It took me so long to have a child. I feel enormous gratitude. Sunday has healed an enormous amount in me. It’s a very personal thing, but she just has.” Their family now also includes Faith Margaret, born via gestational surrogate. The girls’ names seem a natural for a woman who grew up Catholic and who says she still lives by the Ten Commandments.
Nicole’s strength in trying times isn’t surprising when you consider that she’s the child of a feminist who taught her daughters that women have voices and rights. “That’s why I am working for the United Nations as a spokesperson for Unifem,” she says. “It’s in tribute to my mother.”
A strong woman indeed.
For more from Nicole Kidman, check out her DuJour interview.
[Photo: Courtesy DuJour]
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