Scientology Parenting Arguments Split Katie Holmes and Tom CruiseShana Aborn
Well, the last few days have certainly shown us that the Tom Cruise-Katie Holmes marriage wasn’t as happy and love-filled as it seemed to the world.
With every passing day – heck, just about every passing minute – more details are emerging about the couple, their relationship, the events that led up to Katie’s surprise move and what’s happened since then. The rumor mill has been grinding away, with some stories ringing true and others stretching the limits of credibility. (The marriage was a setup! Katie’s being watched!)
But one element is undeniable: Tom is a firm adherent to Scientology, and the church has some very definite ideas of how children should be raised.
Today, a source tells Us Weekly that yes, it was the church’s parenting philosophies that helped lead Katie to file for divorce.
The two “fought viciously” over how best to raise Suri, says the insider. And while Katie went along with the Scientology approach for her daughter’s first six years -including the “silent birth” experience that church members believe prevents problems in childhood – she finally decided she couldn’t keep quiet any more.
Here are some of the parenting practices Katie reportedly couldn’t stomach anymore:
For one, she apparently regrets giving Suri the prescribed Scientology infant food. Instead of breastfeeding or giving formula, Scientologists feed babies a nutritionally questionable mixture of barley water, milk and corn syrup.
And speaking of food, all those trips to the ice-cream store and boutiques were apparently prompted by Scientology’s belief that children should be treated like adults. Tom happily indulged his daughter – punishing kids is discouraged in the church. while “Katie struggled to be a disciplinarian.” (But if this story is true, Suri might have been on the verge of getting a stricter low-sugar diet in preparation for the “auditing” process children undergo at five.)
But one of the couple’s biggest fights was over Suri’s schooling. Tom was in favor of having Scientology teachers homeschool the child (as his older children, Connor and Isabella, were); Katie, raised Catholic, wanted a more traditional path. “She wants to be in charge of how Suri is raised and doesn’t want her to have an exclusively Scientology education,” a source for the actress tells the magazine. Getting sole custody, as Katie is reportedly seeking, would put her in a good position to reach that goal.
As bones of contention go, those are nearing dinosaur size. Unless Tom breaks his ties with the church – or Katie renews hers – it’s not likely that they’ll ever get back together.