The “new normal” life for Suri Cruise following her parents’ divorce is, indeed, a more normal one than she’s known for most of her six years.
Back when Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes were still married (and doesn’t it feel like an eternity ago?), they both gave their daughter a lavish life of toy-store visits, extravagant trips and more gorgeous pint-sized clothes than the entire inventory of the American Girl store. But it was also a rather isolated life of homeschooling and limited socializing. You never saw photo spreads of Suri going on play dates with neighborhood friends.
Now things have changed dramatically – her father’s absence, her new home in Manhattan, a private-school education – and Suri is struggling to adjust.
A source tells Us Weekly that Katie has commented on her daughter’s issues. “She said the divorce has been hard on Suri and she’s been acting out,” says the insider.
Her emotions also seem to be closer to the surface – just the other day, Suri burst into tears at the sight of cameras flashing as she and Katie exited a hotel.
But hard as it must be for Katie to see her daughter unhappy, she’s still focusing on being a responsible parent. For her, that means moving away from the Scientology child-rearing philosophy that instructs parents to indulge their offspring and never to say “no.”
“Katie says no to some things, but she gives a little leeway,” says the source. “She knows Tom is going to spoil her.”
Both mom and daughter are learning together that it’s okay to be imperfect – they work on craft projects that are fun, if not showroom-ready – and that “good enough” can be just fine. In a recent interview, the actress said that “the intention’s there” to be a wonderful mother, even if she doesn’t always succeed. The Holmes source also says that she’s hoping the more modest lifestyle and wardrobe will help Suri “fit in” with her peers.
It has to be a huge shock for a little girl to go from the princess life to one of a commoner (okay, a very well-off commoner, but still), and harder still to do it without King Daddy at her side.
Just remember, Suri, being a true princess isn’t about wearing the tiara and riding in the coach – it’s about who you are inside. And all those “no’s” you’re hearing from Mom will help you grow into a young lady who’s royal on the inside, even if she’s wearing retail-store jeans on the outside.
[Photos: via PacificCoastNews]
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