Brides do not care about you.
Ever. Nor should they.
They are planning their future lives and memories, not yours.
So what if we listen to music that makes our ears bleed on their wedding day.
Or if we are forced to laugh politely at the drunk uncle who hands out his business cards for free lube jobs.
Weddings were made for copious amounts of cutlery and confusing wineglasses. Except…
None of that matters.
Because in the end, wedding days are magical. And beautiful and inspirational. Brides and grooms (and their wedding planners!) allow us a chance to celebrate their new partnership together, and I have yet to leave a wedding without feeling joyous and giggly.
Giddiness does not come cheap though, and not just for the bride and groom.
As a guest, the expenses can add up quickly and steeply: travel, hotel, dress, hair, shower gift, engagement gift, bachelor gift, wedding gift, etc. And yes, it is all worth it. But sometimes these expenses can prevent us from enjoying the day to the fullest.
Thankfully, Cynthia Martyn, Creative Director of Cynthia Martyn Events Inc has offered up some savvy ways to enjoy the day.
Give In Kind 1 of 5Rather than spending money on purchasing a gift, give some thought to your talents and how you might be able to "give in kind" to couple. Case in point - a graphic designer could offer to design wedding invitations, a tech savvy friend could offer to assemble a photo slideshow to be shown during the reception, or a music enthusiast could offer to perform during the ceremony or DJ the party.
Save on Hotel Costs 2 of 5If travelling out of town to attend a wedding, make sure you take advantage of preferred rate "wedding blocks" set up by the host couple at one or two hotels close to the venue. Or if a wedding block has not been arranged, call nearby hotels and ask if they offer a "Social Rate" - which will usually save you $50-100 off the typical rack rates.
Shop the Gift Registry Early 3 of 5Don't leave your wedding gift purchase to the last minute! Shop early and save by choosing the more reasonably priced items on a registry. If you wait to the last minute, you might be stuck with paying for a pricey set of crystal or a silver tea service rather than the more reasonable set of towels.
Give A Group Gift 4 of 5Talk to friends attending the same wedding to see if they might be game to go in on a gift together. Rather than spending $150-200 for an individual gift for the couple, you can pool your funds (say 5 friends x $100) and get a really GREAT gift for the couple.
Recycle Your Wedding Attire 5 of 5At the start of each wedding season, invest in one great outfit that you can wear to multiple weddings by changing accessories for a slightly different look.