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Why a Strict Bedtime Is Good for Your Marriage

By Just Heather |

Bedtime is sacred around here. The girls are in bed by 8pm sharp — every day of the week. I’ve been criticized for being too rigid, called out as overprotective, and encouraged to loosen up and let them be kids on more than one occasion.

But, here’s the thing — it’s not even about them.

Sure, my girls get up at the same time each day no matter what time they go to bed, and a strict bedtime creates well-rested children. But, a strict bedtime has many more important benefits. Not the least of which is my sanity.

A standard bedtime means we never have to think about when to start the bedtime routine. We never have to reset their schedules after a holiday or school break. We never have to worry about what day of the week it is.

Bedtime starts at 7:30 every day. Period. We supervise the girls as they clean their room and lay out their clothes. We help them (okay, fine — we coerce them) to brush, rinse, and floss each night. Then we tuck them into bed by 8:00. And, I clock out.

With parenting duties behind us, I get to be me for a bit. As soon as the girls are quiet, the hubby and I go our separate ways for an hour or so. I take a bubble bath with a crappy good book. He plays video games or watches some awful movie I’d never want to see. It’s a chance to decompress and wash away the day.

Afterwards, we’re able to spend some time together as grownups. It’s a system that has made our marriage stronger over the years. We each get a chance to relax and pursue our own interests, while leaving plenty of time as a couple every evening. That time isn’t always used well (crappy television, anyone?), but it’s ours.

And, if you’ve ever spent 20 minutes trying to get 3 kids to take good care of their teeth, you know we’ve earned it.

I received products from Johnson & Johnson as part of my participation in the LISTERINE® Kids Cavity-Free School Year Program. All thoughts and opinions expressed in this post are my own. Click here to see more of the discussion.

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Just Heather

Heather Sokol babbles about shoes, cocktails, and, mostly, her family. She and her geeky husband are raising four kids and losing sanity daily. They live their gluten free life on a budget while Heather shares her deals, tips and coupon savvy. Read more on her blog Just HeatherTwitter or Pinterest. Read bio and latest posts → Read Heather's latest posts →

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9 thoughts on “Why a Strict Bedtime Is Good for Your Marriage

  1. tinlizzy3 says:

    Amen! This is our first year with a kiddo in school and I’m trying to convince hubby of this very thing. He is anti-schedule anything so I’ve got my work cut out for me to get him on board. Not giving up! Thanks for the reinforcement!

  2. BeccaV says:

    I totally agree with you. I have never understood the parents that let their kids stay up late, only because, when do you get time to yourself? I need that hour or two to hang out with my husband, get a few things done around the house, read a book, etc.

  3. marinka says:

    I definitely remember counting down to bedtime-and my sanity. So I totally get it.

  4. SunnyChanel says:

    Oh, we’ve been battling with the bedtime count down. But one of the biggies is the brushing of the teeth. That’s when she knows we’re serious that it is bedtime!

  5. daniellesmith says:

    Ok – I agree with you in PREMISE, but confess I’m not always perfect in PRACTICE – especially during the summer. And, well, this sport’s season is making it a challenge as well. Either way, teeth brushing happens just before bed and when they get up in the morning :)

  6. carly says:

    Sports can definitely make it tough, but we try our best to keep a standard bedtime as often as we can!

  7. Marie Hunt says:

    mornings are also much more enjoyable when everyone has gone to bed on time and got a good night sleep!

  8. Whit says:

    It sounds great, but structure and I don’t work well together. We get around to bedtime eventually :)

  9. Selena Mae says:

    For some reason…and I may be jinxing myself here, but the schedule we;ve created is more of an organized chaos. We are very strict about not being strict on a set time for bed-time and it’s worked thus far. (Nothing to extreme, of course, our babies need their sleep!) Our careers and lifestyles just don’t allow for it. We do a lot of travelling and are night owls ourselves, we do what works for our family and still find ways to make personal time, I suppose that’s the beauty of working for oneself. We can take time out during the week (for personal), and make up for it later in the evening.

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