(Not Exactly) A Walk in the Park
Over the last six months, things have gotten so much more manageable when it comes to going out in public places with girls. But every once in a while, I get a little cocky. And those gals put me right back in my place.
Mother’s Day in Boston was a gorgeous day, sunny and breezy. After a morning of indulgent “me time” (I slept in, was brought Dunkin donuts and coffee for breakfast, read for awhile, went to the gym, then sat outside in the sunshine with a magazine) I wanted to spend a little quality mother-daughter time with my gals. I decided to take them into the city, to the Public Garden. It seemed like a terrific idea at the time. On my own with the girls (and their doll strollers) at a city park that also happens to be a major tourist attraction, on a beautiful Mother’s Day? Sure! No problem! Piece of cake!
Yeah, well. Not exactly.
Things started off well. We got up and out of the Boston Common garage and across the street into the park without incident. First stop was the “Make Way for Ducklings” statues, mobbed with other small people and their parents, snapping photos. Elsa and Clio saw the other kids sitting on the ducks and figured they probably should do likewise. I snapped the obligatory photos.
Actually, during the course of our outing a lot of other people took photos of the girls, too. Or just grinned and commented and “aww”ed. They did look pretty cute, I guess, so purposely pushing around their twin Curious Georges in doll strollers. And Curious George is something of a Boston icon, so he fit in nicely with the ducklings, the swan boats, the skyline views, etc. (The Curious George books are published by Boston-based Houghton Mifflin and the authors were longtime Cambridge residents. Bit of trivia there for ya.)
We headed over to the lake next, to feed the ducks. The girls each had a bag of crumbled bread, which they attempted to fling into the water. Much of the time it didn’t travel much farther than a few inches, owing to a strong headwind. But some pieces managed to make it in. I was feeling all cooler-than-thou because I let my girls go right onto the stone curb at the edge of the pond to throw their bread, while a mother nearby was freaking out anytime her daughter — probably six or seven years old — got within two feet. The water in the pond, at the shores, is about a foot deep so, while a fall would have been a messy proposition, it wouldn’t have been life-threatening.
But my laid-back mom bravado quickly vanished when we attempted to go further into the park. While Elsa charged ahead at a breakneck speed with her stroller, Clio dawdled behind, stopping to point out the Swan Boats for me (here comes another one, Mommy!), stare up at trees, gape at a mounted policeman’s horse, etc. In retrospect, she was probably also stalling to avoid the crowds we were headed toward: the bridge across the lake was like a freeway, more jammed with pedestrians than I’ve ever seen it before. Many of these people were attempting to take photos of each other standing against the rail, so the traffic periodically stopped and started and generally followed erratic and annoying patterns.
Meanwhile, I couldn’t hold the girls’ hands, because they were pushing their strollers. Until they decided they didn’t want to do that anymore, so I got stuck holding both strollers, trying to maneuver my way through the crowds, while at the same time trying to keep Curious George and his twin brother from tumbling out onto the pavement. Meanwhile, Clio continued to dawdle and Elsa ran back and forth from one side of the bridge to the other — totally oblivious to the other people there, several of whom almost tripped over her — to see the Swan Boats go under on one side and back out the other. Trying to get the girls off the bridge onto the (only slightly less crowded) paths on the other side was like herding cats, and I had a few moments of sheer panic when I couldn’t find one or the other of them for a few seconds.
Honestly, it was lousy judgement on my part. The doll strollers, the bridge, the crowded setting in general….I will not attempt something like this again on my own. At least not in the immediate future.
Once we were off the bridge, it was a little easier to keep the gals corraled, but not much. I tried to get them off the paths and onto the grass, where they’d be less likely to get tripped over by people. This was slightly better. Now instead of herding cats, it was like herding dogs. But I didn’t feel like I really had things under control until we made it back across to Boston Common, where I quickly bought a couple of Italian ices for the girls and found us a shady patch of grass to sit in. Dealing with the slurping, spilling and stickiness that ensued was — compared to the rest of our excursion — a walk in the park.







Although I can imagine the stress of seeing one child run into a croud while waiting for the other to catch up, it sounds like you did amazingly well. I’ve yet to take my little guy there, but hope to do so early on a Tuesday morning when I hope there’d be less people. Good job. Eventually you’ll remember more of the awww moments and less of the “oh crap” ones, right???
You are a brave woman! When I’m by myself, crowds are my biggest fear with 2 unrestrained 25 month old toddlers. It’s not like you can make them hold your hand for 2 hours in row. They are only getting bigger, faster and smarter. I’m still debating getting one of those back pack/leashes for the girls to use in crowds: will all the mean comments be worth it? Of course for the safety of my kids but still …
Thanks for the Curious George trivia! I didn’t know that and I love Boston so much… In fact, we go at least once a year and last summer I spent the most horrible afternoon I’ve ever had with my son at this very park! Daddy went to a PGA tournament that day, and I also thought it would be a lovely mother-son bucolic time, but in the end it ended up being a total nightmare of incredibly loud non-stop tantrums, meltdowns, and mishaps (he hadn’t, and wouldn’t, nap). Good times, good times!
I also think you’re very brave for facing this with your two.
So funny! The older they get, the more we think they are becoming manageable. And they are, just not as fast as our rose-colored glasses would have us think.
The park looks beautiful! I’d be the crazy, over-protective mom trying to keep Michael out of the lake.
See I refuse to take mine somewhere unrestrained often. Especially crowded places. Mine still go in strollers or a wagon most places, even if I have help. It is just less stressful this way. Next time, take a wagon or stroller with you for rescue entrapment! I let mine walk, but if they resist me or start being unmanageable I throw their butts in the wagon or stroller and strap them in and ta da they are manageable again! This was kinda how I trained mine to be better about staying with me and cooperating. “If I don’t stay with mommy and come when she says to, then I get thrown in the wagon….”
Eric and Harrison are much like your girls. Eric charges ahead like Elsa and cries when I tell him to slow down. Harrison though will stare at things and veer off to the side and get distracted. My big thing is “Stay where mommy can see you!” Which I scream after them and chase after them. It looks like they had a good time at the park, even if you had a panic attack!
I can’t blame you though, I have done it too. Next time bring rescue entrapment!
Also a wagon or stroller is good so that when they tire of their toys (for my boys it is lawnmowers) I can chuck the mowers in the wagon and I don’t have to carry them or try to make them carry them. Also good because occasionally they will actually tire out and they don’t want to walk anymore either so they are happy to go in the wagon.
I think even if I only had one baby I would always bring a wagon or stroller. I have a bad back so carrying any toddler around is too much for me. We also used the monkey backpacks with the leashes for a short time when they just started walking, but were not trained to stay with us yet. I don’t care if we got weird looks. I would rather get weird looks than have them get hit by a car or lost. I have this insane fear of them getting run over. I think I watched “Pet Sematary” one too many times…..
I can’t tell you how many time’s I’ve regretted a daring outing. Sounds like you handled it well. I’ve had a couple cases where I got so freaked that I just gave up and got them back in the car with promises of ice cream or something else (in a manageable location). My twins are 4 and they still keep the same flying formation — one always way ahead and the other always way behind. Drives me crazy, I’m always nagging someone to catch up or slow down. Anyway, get used to it!
Oh, and to April: I used leashes for a while too, and kept them in the stroller as long as humanly possible. And I too have an insane fear of them getting hit by a car. They take one step in a parking lot without me and they get the full lecture on car safety. Weirdly, my son somehow thinks that getting run over by a car will turn you into a ball and it will take “a lot of years” to feel better. Whatever it takes!
You too? Last weekend, upon arriving at my parents’ house in the Baltimore burbs, after 2 hours in the car, I decided it would be fun to take my toddler, who was running a slight fever, and my 70-y.o. sprightly mother to the Aquarium downtown. About an hour after parking, and $80 lighter, we were back in the car headed home. Lapses in judgment. Possibly related to the holiday formerly known (in our household) as Mother’s day.
Beautiful photos! I hear you there, I just took my 20-month old girls who will NOT hold my hand for more than 30 seconds to a mostly fenced in field to run around and I was still stressed out when they ran in opposite directions. I may try it again with a double stroller per April’s suggestion. Anyway, I salute you for being brave and getting some quality time in with your adorable girls.