The Odd Couple
For a long time now, it’s been clear that Elsa is a bit messier than Clio when it comes to playing and eating and life in general. These shots taken back in December at the girls’ second birthday pretty much sum it up. (Photos taken seconds apart.)
Exhibit A: Clio and cupcake
Exhibit B: Elsa and (no more) cupcake.
But lately, it seems, Clio is not just casually more careful when it comes to getting messy. She’s actually becoming something of a neat freak. After taking a few bites out of something or a sip of her milk or water, she’ll often try to hand it back to us and demand a “clean” one. (Needless to say, we do not generally accommodate these requests.) Yesterday, I took the girls to a birthday party in our neighbors’ back yard (more birthday parties! These girls are in heaven!) and as usual, Elsa devoured her cake and ice cream (plus some of Clio’s) with sloppy gusto. But Clio was so put off by the messiness of the whole endeavor, she barely touched hers — and this is not a child who usually refuses sweets. She had me cut off all the frosting (not an unreasonable request) but then kept asking me to wipe off her hands and face as she ate, saying over and over again, “I need another nap-kin!”
There was also a wading pool at this party. The girls came prepared, with bathing suits on under their sundresses. Other little kids, however, were going into the water in their clothes. Elsa was happy to follow suit (or dress, I should say; ha ha) and wade around and get the bottom of her dress soaked. Since we were two houses away from our own, it was fine with me. Clio stepped into the water in her dress, too, but quickly realized that she’d made a grave error and poutily asked me to lift her back out. She was very upset that she’d gotten water on her dress, and started saying she wanted to go inside, go home, etc. I suggested that we take off the offending wet dress instead, and she could hang out in her dry, *clean* bathing suit. She liked that. (Meanwhile, Elsa was over at the wading pool helping a tattooed twentysomething fill water balloons.)
This may be a phase. But if nothing else, it is more evidence that Clio takes after her father in more things and Elsa takes more after me. Not that I am a slob, by any stretch. Actually, Alastair and I are both fairly neat people in general. But that said, Alastair does tend to have a lower threshold for disorder. You should see the way he folds his T-shirts. And how annoyed he gets at me when I leave apple cores or banana peels in the cupholders in the car by mistake. (Confession: sometimes I leave them there on purpose, just to mess with him.)
It will be interesting to see how the girls’ attitudes in this department develop over time — especially if they continue to share a room, which is the plan for the immediate future. I can totally see it being like a sitcom episode at some point: the line of tape or string down the middle of the room, with Elsa’s happy mess on one side and Clio’s ordered world on the other.
In fact, the conversation I had Elsa — our budding poet — the other day makes a lot more sense now that I think of it in light of all this. She said to me, apropos of nothing, “Clio is a doughnut.” To which I replied, “She’s a doughnut? What are you?” Elsa said, “I’m a peanut butter sandwich.” Makes sense, doesn’t it? A doughnut (a plain one, anyway) is sort of neat and self-contained and symmetrical, while a peanut butter sandwich is generally a pretty messy, chaotic affair — At least, the way I make them.
All right. Maybe that’s a stretch.
Our little Felix Unger keeps it clean.
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Both of my boys are pretty messy. Eric does eat more dainty like.
My mom used to take care of this little girl at her daycare that had issues when she got there. She was being taken care of by this old lady while her mom was at work that made her neurotic about getting dirty. She didn’t want to go outside because she would get dirty, she would cry if she got dirty. So one day my mom decides to break her of this. The kids were all fingerpainting and the little girl didn’t want to participate because her hands would get dirty. My mom said “Thats it” and forced the little girl’s hands into the paint and made her swirl it around. The whole time the girl was just howling. But then she realized that getting dirty doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t kill you. It is actually kinda fun! From then on she was cured.
Seth and I may not be twins…in fact we’re three years apart…but just ask my mom…you would be lucky to find my brothers floor under all that mess growing up, and as you know Jane…I am the queen of OCD organization…
And as far as I can tell, we both turned out ok…
My sisters are identical twins. When they were little, Ashley was always neater than Renee. Renee was constantly disheveled and often a touch grimy; she just had a knack for finding dirt immediately after escaping the bathtub. As they got older, however, Renee was the one who cleaned her car out weekly and ironed her PE uniforms. Ashley, on the other hand, had to be put on house arrest before she would begin the excavation project needed to find her bedroom floor. Your girls may through you for a loop yet.
Sam is right. I was extremely messy and unorganized as a child. My locker was the worst in the school. But when I got out on my own, I became totally OCD about cleaning and now I am super organized and neat.
Donut and peanut butter sandwich huh?
It’s really fascinating to see them become their own little person. I do hope it’s just a phase though,and I’ve heard stories of this happening around that age. I’m sure Clio will stay a little neater than her sister, but I hope she gets around to enjoying her sweets despite the messiness like the other kids!
I love reading your blog – it gives me so much to look forward to as my girls have just turned one.
We are fond of calling my girls the “Odd Couple” too. Danielle is a mess – she eats with gusto, mixing everything together, shoving it all in her mouth and rubbing everything all over her face because darn it, food it just that good. Samantha is immaculate – she eats one tiny bit at a time, with her pinky out in the air, no food touches another and her face is generally spotless at the end of a meal.
For their first birthday last month, Danielle was hysterical because there was icing in her eyes, up her nose, completely covering her and I guess it hurt a bit. Samantha, on the other hand, was completely content… she just leaned her face towards the cupcake, nibbling little pieces off so her fingers did not have to touch the messy icing. I can’t imagine two little people who are more different.
My kids aren’t twins, but they had to share a room for a year. It was an unmitigated disaster.
My daughter is not tidy, my son is, while not particularly tidy,is very particular about his environment. Oh, the arguments! Oh. the drama!
We moved about as fast as we possibly could so that they could have their own rooms. Everyone is MUCH calmer now.
J became very particular about cleanliness around this age. one of her favorite words was “mess” and wouldnt hesitate to assess something as a “mess”
the good news is she essentially self potty trained. a few years later, no horribly neurotic signs. she is a lot more hesitant than some other kids her age when it comes to risk/strangers/falling/getting dizzy/ etc but thats just been her disposition since birth