Girl Talk May Fuel Anxiety
Naturally you want your children to have strong friendships, people they can trust to
help them navigate social and emotional concerns. But there may be such a thing
as too much talking.
Psychologists call it
Naturally you want your children to have strong friendships, people they can trust to
help them navigate social and emotional concerns. But there may be such a thing
as too much talking.
Psychologists call it
BigMama and Leahsmom, I definitely agree that we should be wary of studies that pigeonhole women into stereotypically female behavior–particularly when that behavior is found to be “wrong” in some way. However, I just want to say that this study’s findings are definitely true to my experience. I certainly have numerous female friends with whom my emotional conversations are uplifting and enlightening, but I am all too familiar with the obsessive, self-pitying type of conversation that sometimes make me not to answer my phone.
Sometimes these conversations occur with men, so perhaps the gender delineations in the study are over-simplistic. But I think the main point about the dangers of this way of conversing are well taken.
These psychologists who say that focusing on solutions to problems rather than venting them is more effective are male, right? And this makes more sense to them, right? Because that’s how they communicate? And when women have feelings they are irrational?
Come on, we know better than this.
@leahsmom: Yup. Also, boys never talk to each other except to say “Dude, that chick is hot.” Riiiight.
This makes me angry.
Not at Hannah, but at the study.
Hey look! Another study out showing women that we don’t do anything right! Our bodies aren’t okay, no matter how fit we are and how often we work out, if they have fat. We don’t eat right if we stray from our raw food diets – even as athletes in the Olympics. We don’t parent right. And now, the way that girls relate to each other is inherently unhealthy! Better fix that, shouldn’t we?
But, of course, the boys keep on getting it right all the time, yes?
Grar.
I am so tired of hearing my female friends tell me the reason they do so and so is because once so and so happened to them so now they can never change. Blah, Blah, Blah. One said she moves a lot cause her mom complained about their house all of the time. What? The Big Excuse Generation. Their favorite subjects are thier neurosis or their kids.