Gets your dander up, doesn’t it? Oh my sweet henry, they’re trying to teach our two-year-olds to have sex! And not just the missionary position but you know, the naughty, we don’t do that in the heartland kind of s-e-x.
Except they’re not.
Where Did I Really Come From? was apparently written to help children of gay couples understand the myriad other ways children come into the world other than a man and woman having sex . . . together. The book includes a chapter about surrogacy (with pictures of two gay men holding a child) and another on lesbian moms using a sperm donor.
According to the Australian, there is some discussion of sex – although I’m not sure how graphic (I haven’t read the book myself). They cite a chapter that notes: “Sometimes, a woman really wants to have a baby but she doesn’t want to have intercourse with a man. Some women want to bring up a baby by themselves, or with another woman, so the baby gets two mums.”
Author Narelle Wickham says she was just trying to normalize for kids the different forms of conception, and the stands behind the suggestion that kids as young as two be given the book by their parents.
Many of the “anti” comments, frankly, are bizarre. Here’s a taste:
“Let children be children, they do not need to be introduced to sex or alternative lifestyles at a tender age.” Well, if this book was purchased by a parent who used a surrogate or a sperm donor (the families it was written for), that introduction came at the very tender age of CONCEPTION folks.
“Another shot at sexualising and brainwahsing youngsters.” Yes, it’s brainwashing to let them know that gays really exist, and, by the way, Mommy is one of them. And for that matter, so is Mommy!
“I believe young children should be taught about gay and lesbian parents
as this will help them identify them when they are older and allow them
to stay away from these types of parents.” Because the gay and lesbian parents are so desperate for children that they’re going to come after them?
“I think any book about this subject shouldn’t be targeted at 2 year olds. Do two year olds really need to be told about sex?” That depends – what did you tell your kids when you or your partner got pregnant? I was four when my parents gave me a book about mommies and daddies making a baby in preparation for a new addition to our family. Which means those books have been out there for decades, aimed at toddlers (this one too has been out since 1992, but is all of a sudden back in the spotlight). Because kids as young as two will certainly notice there is a burgeoning belly if there’s a pregnancy or notice a new person suddenly arrive in their lives.
But I guess that was OK, according to most of these posters. Because I had a mom and a dad. Although if I’d had a mom and dad using a surrogate, would that have been OK? Or a mom and dad who had to use a sperm donor? An egg donor? IVF? IUI?
This book addresses them all, giving thousands of kids an alternative to that same old “Mommy and Daddy made me” book I read as a kid. Fortunately for their mommies and/or daddies, it’s out there for them.