A few weeks ago I was at Music Together with my daughter. We were singing a song where a typical verse went like this:
“Who’s that tapping at the window? /Who’s that knocking at the door?
Mommy’s tapping at the window?/Daddy’s knocking at the door.”
(Makes you think of the toddlers who lock their parents out, doesn’t it?)
After it was over, my daughter turned to me and said “That’s song’s silly.”
“Why?” I asked, though I was pretty sure I knew what was coming.
“It doesn’t have a Mama in it.”
And indeed it didn’t. Though most of the world thinks of “Mommy” and “Mama” as interchangable, for children like her who have both, they’re not exactly. She’s been told, and basically understands, that they are just “parent names” and that all mothers and fathers get to choose a specific ones like “mommy” or “mama,” and that doesn’t mean they have different roles as parents. Nonetheless, she likes them to be in balance