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(Arranged) Marriage with Children
Tom Cruise is admittedly a bit of a kook, but apparently, his sweet couch-jumpin-love for Katie Holmes was more arranged marriage than dreamy romantic coincidence.
And given the divorce rates and unhappy marriages everywhere, who is to say that assistance (whether yenta, over-involved mother, or on-line match-up) isn’t a smarter way to go about finding a mate than who strikes our fancy?
Given the challenge of raising children while keeping the love alive, and how this challenge is quite different than who is good in bed or clever over dinner at a restaurant, it seems that any and all wonder powers should be activated when choosing a mate.
Whether this is the least romantic concept remains to be seen (for love or diaper duty?). And time will tell whether the approach used by Tom (asking his spiritual cohorts to help him troll for a suitable wife) results in a long-term successful marriage and happy family life.
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mcglory13 commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amMy spouse and I were set up on a blind date by our mothers. We only went so they’d stop bugging us. My mom didn’t really know him, and his mom didn’t know me, but our families were so similar (not necessarily a good thing), and we had so much in common, that ten years later, here we are.
mnijtnc commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amMy husband worked with a guy (from another country) who had an arranged marriage and he and his wife seemed very happy. My husband asked him about it, and the guy said that in his particular community, your family and extended family, men and women, are involved in choosing a spouse for you (although you have the option to say no after meeting that person). But he figured that if those people who love you and want the best for you and the family choose someone, they’ll pick someone with a similar economic, religious, and family background, and who they all like, so that removed all of those things that tend to sow discord in a marriage. And, he said, when you have all those things in common, it’s easy to have fun together and eventually fall in love.
I thought he actually had a solid point. I guess it depends on your family’s motivations for selecting the person that they do.
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