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Life Isn’t Fair. Now Get Used to It
Imagine dinnertime, a mom and a dad and a three year old.
Three-year-old: “I don
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Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amI was spoiled by my parents. For a long time I’ve had a spoiled rotten attitude, trying to make sure I always got what I wanted or did what I wanted to when I wanted to do it. Over the years I’ve been trying to whittle that away and be a little more free from that mindset. Being a new dad (10 weeks) has sped the process up considerably as I have absolutely no time for leisure activities. I love it!
What I have always found odd, is that despite my spoiled attitude, I’ve always had a very strict attitude towards everyone else “No, you can’t have that”, “Well, you’ll just have to wait” “Don’t buy that, we can’t afford it”, etc. I sucked. I definitely won’t let my child grow up with the same mindset that I’ve had until now. It ends up being a terrible feature of a personality as an adult.
Oh…and my favorite saying…”Life sucks, then you die.”
Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amI have always said life isn’t fair Sometimes you don’t get what you want and that it just ok. This way you’ll be thankful when thinks do turn out. I figure the mantra sink in one of these days The sooner they figure this out they can learn to be happy.
JuliansMom commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amWhen my son says “I want” “I want” “I want”
I usually have one of two answers for him
“Get a job, or earn the money to buy it your self, I will help you learn how” (Which is when the subject is usually dropped)
Or
“Yea well…I want a blue pony!!!”
To which the response is usually..
“Mommy, there is no such thing as a blue pony… And we dont have room for a pony in our house”
“Exactly…some times you cant always get something just cuz you “Want it”"
Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amMy sister used to sing that Rolling Stones song to her first born all the time. Then one day, when she was throwing a fit about something, he sang it right back to her. I don’t think she sings it anymore.
Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amAdelheid, I sing that to my son all the time….!
Adelheid commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amIn the immortal words of the great Rolling Stones, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find that you get what you need.”
Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amGosh. I think my version of “life’s tough” – “aw, you just lead a tragic life, don’t you?”, usually followed by more wailing and me just cruelly walking away – began with the three year old about half a year ago. If you’ve made it this far without sarcasm then you’re doing way better than me!
And the sarcasm …. yes, I frequently find myself saying something marvellously ironic. Usually followed by, “why are you speaking in GRE words to the three year old? Duh!” in my head.
Maybe the upside will be that the tyke will grow up with great vocabulary? Hopefully he’ll grow out of the falling on the ground in tearful frustration – that helps when you’re trying to look cool in the droll ironic way.
Anonymous commented on Jan 01 70 at 12:00 amI usually hate little sing-song things, but I have used the phrase “You get what you get, and you don’t get upset” in our house here and there. At this point, they’ve only had to deal with situations like yours above (plain old milk instead of the coveted chocolate milk) but maybe even that will get them used to the fact that they can’t always get what they want. I would hate to raise kids who feel they are entitled to anything and everything without putting in some hard work.
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