You all are crazy, You don”t know “said counselor” and have no right to judge the situation. I am a former student of his and he acted as my counselor when I was attending Seven Hills. You need to look at both sides all you are hearing is the parents side and as you all should know 12 year old girls lie to their parents when they don’t want to get in trouble. This is an unfortunate situation but for you all to condemn the counselor is pure ignorance on your part.

First of all let me say Seven Hills Middle School is a great school. It is a top notch academic school. My daughter went there last year and heard ALL about these rumors. The so-called 12 year old was almost 14 yrs old. She is NOT a “good” girl. She has quite a reputation. She has been expelled numerous times for fighting and promiscious behavior. That is a fact. The whole family is disfunctional. She has a horrible attitude and hates the school and teachers. She says she’s an honor student thats another lie.

I don’t know if I’d be suing or anything, but if I had been the kid’s parent, I’d have preferred the counselor talk to me and let me talk to my daughter. If I were concerned I could take her to the doctor. This would have made me pretty dang uncomfortable.

Just to play devil’s advocate to the “just call the parents” argument, a school guidance counselor has the potential to play an incredibly important role in students’ lives. (Understand that my argument has NOTHING to do with this particular counselor, who clearly behaved egregiously.) I was close with my middle school guidance counselor, in large part because I trusted that nothing I told him would ever get mentioned to my parents. He helped me learn to cope with family/social issues in healthy ways. If he had called my parents the first time he suspected I was in trouble, I would never have formed this kind of relationship with him, a relationship that ultimately benefited my relationship with my parents.

This is a happy example. But there are also the possibilities that a 12-year-old suspected of being pregnant and hiding the pregnancy (again, in this particular case, those suspicions were clearly not valid from the get-go) has a deeply troubled family life. This is not to say that the parents should never be involved, but there is something to be said for a counselor establishing a trusting, close rapport with a student before getting the parents involved.

I don’t care what any of you say. I personally know “said counselor” and find these allegations totally ridiculous. He’s not the kind of person to force someone into taking anything. This man even takes time off his weekends to donate bikes to charitable organizations. I personally know this as a student of Seven Hills.

Stephanie… you really think the choice is here a forced pregnancy test administered to a little girl or a baby in the trash can? Really? No, I don’t buy it. Go troll elsewhere, please.

If my daughter were 12? I’d want the counselor to gently and skillfully approach ME thank you very much! And given the meanness of kids at this age, you bet the ones who were taunting this girl are that much more fueled by the whole ordeal now.

Stephanie, there is a difference between an appropriate, professional level of compassionate concern and involvement and FORCING a minor child to take a medical test (because that’s what a pregnancy test is, regardless of whether or not it’s available over the counter).

If this were my kid I would be livid.

However, when we set up the schools to serve as “in loco parentis” for our children, when we expect the school system to raise our children more and more every year, what do we expect?

Stories like these make me want to homeschool.

Amy @ http://prettybabies.blogspot.com

I would be furious like this girl’s parents, too! If he was so concered, then he needed to call the parents and explain that he had concerns, and bring the parents and girl in for a meeting. I feel terrible for this girl… not only was she embarassed by her counsler, but she’s also the subject of a rumor.