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10 Qualities I Hope My Daughter Picks Up From Her Mother

By Serge Bielanko |

True love rules.

I have fallen deeply in love twice in my life.

So, I consider myself a lucky man.

The first time was with my wife, almost eight years ago. The second time was in January, 2009, on the day my daughter was born.

There are few things as grand as being able to share your life with another person who you really truly care about. Many of us take it for granted, if not all the time, well then, at least part of the time, I’d say.

We lose track of our fortunes on a regular basis, choosing instead to concentrate on what we don’t have or what we lost somewhere along the way.

Yet the truth is, we’re usually a whole lot better off than we realize.

Being able to watch my daughter grow up has been one of the greatest things I have ever experienced. And being able to do that in the company of the woman I love, a strong idealistic person with a lot of heart and soul, has made the experience of raising a little girl that much richer for me.

For the most part, very few of us knew our spouses when they were children, so there is an air of constant mystery that surrounds the question: is my child just like her mama was when she was young? I consistently find myself wondering that.

I like that in some ways, being around my daughter is probably a lot like being around my wife when she was one and two and three years old.

But, the very best part of all of this is knowing that every single day, every few moments, my ‘baby girl’ is learning things from her mommy and emulating her and imitating her in a million different ways.

As a father, that gives me a boundless sense of satisfaction. Knowing that there is a very likely chance that my daughter will absorb and carry many of my wife’s best qualities gives me real confidence in her ultra-bright future.

And as far as I know, that is probably the greatest gift of all.

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Like Mama, Like Daughter...I hope.


When it comes to being a mom, I am constantly amazed at the patience my wife has. She is largely unflappable, even in the midst of toddler tantrums or full-on Mach 10 baby meltdowns. Me, I do my best, but there have been many occasions when I have had to realize that my own reaction to some basic kid insanity is actually crazier than what the kid is doing! Not so with my wife. She always manages to take a deep breath and calmly talk our daughter down from whatever tree she has climbed up in. And I love that and respect it immensely. So, I really hope Violet takes after mom on this one!



You can also find Serge on his personal blog, Thunder Pie.

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More from Serge:

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Kids And Race And Equality: On Raising a Loving Child

The Ways Of Love: 20 Things My Kids Have Taught Me About Living

R-E-S-P-E-C-T: A Married Father’s Salute To Solo Parents

25 Things About My Son, Henry


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20 simple ways to show your kids you love them
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About Serge Bielanko


Serge Bielanko

Serge Bielanko writes about fatherhood for Babble Dad and about marriage stuff for Babble Voices at He Said/She Said. His writing has appeared in Esquire and The Huffington Post, as well as on his personal blog, Thunder Pie. He lives with his wife and two kids in central Pennsylvania. Read bio and latest posts → Read Serge's latest posts →

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12 thoughts on “10 Qualities I Hope My Daughter Picks Up From Her Mother

  1. Rebecca says:

    Monica looks so beautiful in these pictures and this was a really sweet tribute.
    How much you love her really shines through your writing.

  2. Kami says:

    I loved this! You and Serge have such a gift of writing, and I love that he can put into words his feelings. That is such a unique quality to find in a husband, and the way he described you is exactly the Monica I remember. Such a cute family.

  3. Laura says:

    This was so lovely to read!

  4. Hanni says:

    Absolutely beautiful…writing AND photos!

  5. Veronica H. says:

    I loved this. I rarely comment… I was going to come up with some good excuse but, well, because I’m usually lazy. But, I thought this was wonderful. So often, we are quick to say something negative, or to throw a little zinger at our mates because it’s so easy. It’s so easy to pick that low hanging fruit, especially when we’re around each other all of the time. But to take some time to point out the really great things that can be celebrated about her, things that just by reading them will make her feel beautiful and appreciated… now that is special. And that deserves a comment.

  6. Purita says:

    This was so beautiful!!

  7. sandytoz says:


  8. Incredible!!! I think you need to add a credit to yourself…you obliviously have a tremendous amount of respect and love for your wife and your daughter is lucky enough to grow up watching this so that when the time comes, way in the future;), when she finds a man she loves, she will choose one who loves and respects her. She is so lucky to have such incredible parents!

    1. sergebielanko says:

      lunaslovelylife, that’s such a nice thing to say. Thank you so much!

  9. Belinda says:

    I loved it, thanks so much for sharing!

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  11. Jamie says:

    This was such a well written article. I love that you are a man who has what every man strives to find but rarely does appreciate. We all want to find someone with these attributes and then take them for granted it seems! You are truly blessed!

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