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10 Things This Mom Can Learn from Dads

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As a mom to 6-month-old twins, I’ve developed a certain way of doing things when it comes to parenting. It’s hard for me not to cringe when dad steps in and takes over because let’s face it, he doesn’t know that the teeny-tiny washcloths get stacked on the right side of the drawer under the crib, or that there’s a special pad that protects the pad that goes on the changing table.

But what I’ve come to realize is that when I refrain from correcting my husband or showing him how to do things my way, he starts to feel even more confident handling the babies — and I get some much-needed help! The bonus is that when we let dads be dads, we can actually learn something from them.

Here’s what I’ve learned from watching my husband and other dads — let me know if you agree! — Ronnie Koenig

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10 Things about Parenting that Moms Can Learn from Dad

They don't read tons of parenting books

When the little one isn’t sleeping enough, mom scours different websites, checks out online chat rooms, and takes out books from the library espousing different sleep-scheduling methods. The dads I know go by trial and error, and for the most part, the result is usually the same!

Ronnie Koenig is a freelance writer based in Brooklyn, NY. She was the editor-in-chief of Playgirl magazine and writes for Cosmo, Redbook, Penthouse, American Way and others. Visit her at www.ronniekoenig.com.

 

 

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10 thoughts on “10 Things This Mom Can Learn from Dads

  1. Ben Jackson says:

    I have big problems with this “Moms do this better, dad do this better” archetype we’ve created. They simply perpetuate negative stereotypes for both sides, when there shouldn’t even *be* a both sides. We’re parents. As individuals, we have strengths and weaknesses. They have nothing do do with our genitals.

    I feel terribkly guilty for working. I read every parenting book I could get my hands on when my exwife was pregnant. I panicked at injuries. Lots of dads I know did these and other things.

    Please, please stop framing these big generalizations as what “moms” and “dads” do!

  2. mikeadamick says:

    Is this Bizarro Week at Dadding and I didn’t get the memo?

  3. Beta Dad says:

    I guess Babble figured out how to squeeze more pageviews out of Dadding. Insert a bunch of stupid slideshows that celebrate socially constructed gender differences. Why do I keep clicking on this shit?

    BTW, this isn’t as personally offensive to me as Cody’s moms-are-better-than-dads dreck because a number of these observations hold true in my family. But still–WHY IN THE NAME OF ALL THAT IS SENSIBLE AND REASONABLE MUST THIS BE ABOUT MOMS VS DADS?! Just make it about you and your spouse! Oh yeah, I forgot for a second. Pagehits. Fuck. I just can’t come here anymore.

  4. Chris Routly (Daddy Doctrines) says:

    I love how this list is framed as being a compliment, about how dads have something valuable to teach moms… and then we mostly get a list of things DADS DON’T CARE ABOUT like reading books, addressing injuries, dressing our children properly, missing time with the kids, and just generally doing things right. Oh, and we’re more than happy to hand off the kid when we get tired! Yay dads?

    If you want to compliment dads, can you do it without doing it backhanded?

  5. guajolote says:

    Totally not accurate in our house. I shoot my husband a look of death for his need to run to the kid every time she falls on her butt. And it’s he who hunts aroound for socks that match the top he picked for her.

  6. Daddy Files says:

    This is pretty backhanded. I’m not sure an unwillingness to read and being OK with never getting things right is complimentary. I’m a little surprised that after the whole “10 Things Moms Do Better Than Dads” fiasco Babble would be this cavalier about another dad article disguised as a positive but really reinforcing old stereotypes.

    The biggest slap is at the end. Apparently the author thinks if we’re going to ask for parenting help it’s gonna be a random mom we see on the street. Why not write parent instead of mom? Do you think a random dad wouldn’t have the answer?

    This has not been a good week for Babble.

  7. dadcamp says:

    In the words of Barney Stinson: “Nailed it.”

  8. dadcamp says:

    Oh, and Daddy Files .. chill. out. You are taking this thing way too seriously man. Way. Too. Seriously.

    Not everything is about you. Not everything is about every specific situation. You are demanding political correctness gone amok. Sometimes generalizations work to describe feelings all (most) of us have.

    You’re starting to sound like a petulant toddler.

  9. kaye says:

    LOL I loved it and in my house anyway this is so true. All of you that have such a problem with this need to realize there ARE things most(i said most not all before someone try to say “well in my house”) moms and dads do different.In my opinion it works best that way. Kids need to learn not to over react to boo-boos and tumbles as much as they need moms kisses. I like that my husband is this way with our sons. they need to learn to be tough and if I had a daughter I would feel the same way. I dont try to make him be a lovey dovey parent like me and he doesnt try to make be like him. Let dads be dads. Most dads dont sweat the small stuff because i dont know if its because they realize it doesnt matter if the babys shoes match his outfit or if they just dont care if they match, but the baby is happy either way.So if dads want to be a new age dad go for it. If dads want to be old school let them. It was a funny and true post so please people get off your high horse and let people live, and stop being so offened by EVERYTHING the author wasnt talking directly to you!!!!

  10. Daddy Files says:

    Hey Dadcamp: I have a question for you — why are you focusing on me? Several other commenters left the exact same sentiments, yet you say nothing about them and focus on me. And then, in a glorious fit of irony, you tell me it’s not all about me. Well done.

    Read the bolded line in the author’s article. It says “Here’s what I’ve learned from watching my husband and other dads — let me know if you agree! — Ronnie Koenig.” Do you hear that? LET ME KNOW IF YOU AGREE. It specifically invites discussion and points of view. So that’s what I did. Again, that’s kind of the whole point.

    You tell me to chill out yet you’ve commented far more on this than I have. Which is fine, I’m not the one complaining. More discussion is almost always better. But your “points” aren’t making any sense and if you continue to single me out, I’ll continue to respond.

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