When you are a new daddy and you first bring a newborn baby into the home, you’re typically a jittery ball of nervous, boundless energy and wild-eyed curiosity.
In you come, with the best intentions you’ve ever had in your lifetime and nothing is going to get in your way of being the best father ever, dammit. Wanting so badly to be able to really help out with your little one, you reach deep inside and find that part of you that has lay dormant down in the dark caves of your inner soul for all of your days until this moment; the part of you that actually dives into diaper changing and burping and rocking him or her to sleep without so much as a moment’s hesitation, you know?
You are overcome with love for this kid and you show it just by doing stuff that would make you sad to miss if, heaven forbid, you ever had to.
Still, those first few weeks of parenthood aren’t really a fair show of what things are going to end up being like in the end. Your partner or your wife, whoever you are sharing the love/work with, he or she looks at you in your 3 AM bedroom during the latest crying jag or midnight poop festival and you both sigh together, your eyes meeting in the dim lamplight to scream:
“THIS IS SO F!$#@%G DIFFICULT!!!”
And what happens is that, for a second there, you actually have no idea that parenthood is ever going to be anything but really hard work on your part, and that your kid seems destined not for the greatness you once hoped for, but rather to lay there like a blubbering bump on a soggy sad log.
You think to yourself,” Hmph. This must be it. THIS is it.”
But it’s not it.
Not even close.
See, in the days and weeks and years to come, as that little upturned pot of squirming clay begins to smile and crawl and walk and eat dirt out of the houseplant containers and fall asleep on your chest right there on the couch while you’re watching another episode of Blue’s Clues, you will begin to reap the wild windfall of incredible moments and priceless rewards that come to dudes just like you, guys who have put their hearts and their guts on the line for a teeny tiny baby.
Every day will start to bring you something new, something spectacular and wildly cool, as you start to reap the rewards of being a father. Every day will be a superb adventure. And you will deserve and cherish every single one of them… trust me.
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