When I’m out with my three kids, I often get some bizarre questions and comments. One of the most common question is, “Are all of those kids yours?”
One the surface, it seems like an innocent question, but it is rife with condescensention and pity. I’ve heard the question enough to understand what they’re really saying is, “I can’t believe that a dad is out with children by himself.” After I assure them that my wife is healthy and alive, they smile and give me a backhanded compliment.
“You’re a good dad.”
Really? Are the expectations for dads so low that showing up in public with your kids, makes you Dad of the Year?
I know that many dads have experienced similar scenarios. While we try to be polite and respond respectfully, having strangers question our parenting abilities can be annoying.
The next time you observe a dad out with his children, please exercise some restraint and avoid saying the following five things.