7 Secrets to Having a Healthy Love Life in Your 40s

When some men reach their 40s, they start to notice a decrease in their sex drive. Whereas you may have been engaging in this activity three nights a week in your 20s and 30s, your frequency has dropped to only 3 nights a month. But you can kickstart your libido and have the best sex of your life right now.

These 7 secrets to having a healthy love life in your 40s will not only help you to increase your sexual frequency and confidence, but they will also significantly improve your relationship with your partner.

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  • Manage your health 2 of 9
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    When you reach your 40s, it's crucial to maintain a healthy lifestyle which includes eating right, exercising, and scheduling regular doctor visits. Your food choices have a huge impact on your sexual health. A well-balanced menu can help to keep your body primed for the bedroom. Exercise boosts your metabolism, stamina, and testosterone levels - all key ingredients for a healthy sex drive. And don't neglect your annual physical exams. Sometimes a decrease in sexual desire is caused by a medical condition. Talk to your doctor about any physical changes you may be experiencing.

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  • Keep stress under control 3 of 9
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    The stresses of life - work, family, finances - can wreak havoc on your libido. As these pressures increase, your desire to have sex can quickly diminish. However, if you properly manage your stress, you can prevent it from ruining your love life. First identify the stressors in your life. Next, develop a plan to deal with each one. Meditation, sleep, and exercise are great stress reducers. Sex also helps to melt away anxiety.

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  • Maintain an emotional connection with your partner 4 of 9

    Maintaining a strong emotional connection with your partner is the key to prolonged sexual satisfaction. It's just important to have a strong relationship with your partner outside the bedroom as it is inside the bedroom. You can solidify your relationship by spending quiet time together, having deep conversations, and doing things as a couple. By meeting each other's emotional needs, you'll be in a better position to please each other physically. 

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  • Schedule sex 5 of 9

    When you were in your 20s or 30s, having spontaneous sex was much easier. In your 40s responsibilities such as taking care of the kids, running errands, and managing household chores can put a damper on your sex life. That's why it is important to schedule time for sex. Write it on your calendar just as you would with any other obligation. While scheduling sex may not sound romantic, it is necessary to maintain a regular sexual routine.

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  • Openly express your needs and desires 6 of 9
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    Don't be shy about discussing your physical needs and desires with your partner. Your partner cannot satisfy your desires or meet your needs if she doesn't know what they are. Your relationship is a safe place to express your fantasies and talk about your feelings. This display of vulnerability will also build trust and strengthen the bond between you and your partner. 

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  • Try New Things 7 of 9
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    To avoid a sexual rut, try new things with your partner. Explore your fantasies. Do some role playing. Recreate scenes from 50 Shades of Grey. Introduce sex toys, lotions, and costumes. Experiment with different positions. You're only limited by your own imagination. The only rule to abide by is to avoid doing anything that you or your partner are uncomfortable with. 

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  • Understand that sex is more than intercourse 8 of 9

    Many men equate sex with intercourse, but it is much more than that. Kissing, touching, and exploring your partner's body provide physical pleasure without intercourse. By expanding your definition of sex, you can experience new levels of intimacy with your partner.

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