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Who’s Your Daddy? 13 Father Figures in Every Maternity Ward

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So much of preparing for childbirth focuses on the mom — but what about Dad? Depending on the situation — and his character — many soon-to-be fathers fall under one of these 10 dad archetypes, from the one who’s about to pass out, to the one who has donned his scrubs and is ready to catch the baby. Take it from this labor and delivery nurse and learn about the most common types of dads that you’ll meet during delivery.

Click through for the 13 most common delivery room dads after the jump!

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13 Dad Types Every Maternity Ward

Doting Dad

As one woman described, this type of dad treats his partner like she is “the only woman who has ever given birth.” Doting Dad is like gold during labor and delivery — calm, cool, and collected, he offers loving encouragement to his partner, while avoiding the delicate line of crossing into the territory of …
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Chaunie Brusie became a mother unexpectedly during her senior year of college and graduated with her Bachelors of Science in Nursing exactly one week before delivering her daughter, Ada Marie. As a speaker, writer, and advocate for young mothers, Chaunie hopes to empower women facing unplanned pregnancies. She blogs at www.tinybluelines.com.

 

 

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15 thoughts on “Who’s Your Daddy? 13 Father Figures in Every Maternity Ward

  1. Krystal says:

    This is funny and very accurate! My hubby was actually asked to leave the room he was so sick! Luckily he was able to pull himself out of it long enough to come back to be there for our daughters birth and cut the umbilical cord.

  2. Rory Lee says:

    My dad passed out when they broke my mom’s water, so we know what kind of dad he was! My husband was (as he is most of the time) the annoyingly optimistic “Everything is fine and it’s all going to be ok” dad. Maybe in the scheme of things everything is going to be ok, but trying to push this watermelon out my hoo-ha does not feel fine!!

  3. Lora says:

    My husband definitely falls into the insta-dad category, he was great throughout the whole process, rubbing my back for 6 hours straight, talking me through my pain,(I didnt want any type of pain medication, and i didnt get any) and he was a little nervous but once I started crowning and he saw our sons head coming through ( he wasnt sure he wanted to watch at first) he was so excited and watched the whole thing, and going in there he didnt want to cut the cord, but my obgyn held up the baby and asked him if he wanted to cut it and he did it, and after wards he was so glad he did, the only bad part was they made us stay in the hospital for two days after and that sucked, next time i am hiring a midwife and getting a birthing tub brought to my home

  4. Stephanie says:

    I was extremely lucky!! Through the births of both of our children my boyfriend was wonderful! He was the strong and silent dad. If I needed something, he made sure I got it. If I wanted to be left alone, he backed off just enough for me to know he was still close by. He joked with me some between contractions, which was nice. And when the babies were born he was right there taking pictures, watching as the dr.s measured and cleaned them up and coming over to check on me and give me kisses. When I held them for the first time, he sat with me and waitied for me to look them over and then he got his turn. He was amazing both times and I love him even moer for it:)

  5. chastity says:

    My husband was the quiet and strong type, he let me labor at home for 15 hours like I wanted to. Only by my doctors orders I went to the hospital while there he was calm an didn’t annoy the crap outta me didn’t try to rub my back through contractions (didn’t want to be touched :) ) he was perfect, and although our delivery didn’t go as planned (emergency C-section) we have a Beautiful Baby BOY! Wouldn’t change it for the world.

  6. jamie says:

    i think you forgot one type. the type of dad i call “jerk dad”. hes there but is ignorantly not any kind of support…. hate to say it but my husband is one of those. with my oldest i ended up with a csection, mainly because i had nobody telling me i coudl do it. it wasnt necesesary. i was just scared. he did nothing to help me cope. he was great once logan was born, but that all changed with baby #2. with our youngest it was a scheduled csection and once evan was out, my husband was MIA. he left the hospital at every chance… terrible…

  7. Jenni says:

    My husband was a cross between doting dad and instadad. He was great throughout labor. The nursing staff was swooning
    After my emergency c section, he was the first to hold and feed our son. He was nervous but very brave.

  8. marylweimer says:

    So happy to see you here Chaunie!

  9. J2 says:

    there are some nice and helpful descriptions here and some inappropriate ones.

    strength and flexibility and composure and care are clearly good traits to point out. but you imply that the “doctor’ type is bad because he is skeptical and asks lots of questions and you ridicule his efforts to study and try and learn about the subject on-line…as if there is nothing a person can learn in the world without be assigned to do so in medical school. Caring enough to study and ask questions is not, by itself, a good explanation of problem behavior in and of itself.

    also you say this type of dad is “prancing” around the room? what exactly are you saying is the problem? …that he moves around? …or that he is not “man enough” to move in a non-”prancing way”? Your position seems to be that not only do you favor the Strong Silent Type but that thinkers and talkers are bad and are unmanly “prancers” who need to sit down and be quit trying to be being so involved and informed… sounds like you go a little too far in expecting fathers to sit down and shut up and be manly non-prancers.

    you did use the word “prancing”! that is clearly code-word for questioning a mans manhood…. which is a nice way of saying “bullying” …which you do again when telling blood-sensitive men to “man up” … as if strength is a “man” thing. A blood sensitive person who probably fears passing out would reasonably avoid that. maybe you ought to “woman up” [to coin a phrase] and show some nurturing skills. oh and by the way “man up” is a misogynist concept which assumes strength and courage are only male traits! Such trash talk can be friendly and funny sometimes but frustrated bullying in serious circumstances. Strength and courage are human things. would you tell a birthing mother who is struggling during a contraction to “man up”? …hopefully not. please dont ever tell an expectant father to “man up” unless its a joke mocking the sterotypes of gender segregation like the self depricating humor of the book “man-made” by new father and self described wimp Joel Stein who is actually cool smart and funny..and might very well faint at the sight of blood.

  10. J2 says:

    so “diva” dad asked you for three things? (pillow, comb,toothbrash)
    and this “interrupted” you?

    how long was the delivery he was there supporting?

    I dont see how laying ones head on a pillow while at your wifes bedside is
    something so unreasonable as to warrant comment. nor is brushing your teeth and combing your hair when you wake up.

    sounds like you are calling the wrong person “diva”

    oh and it is another example, in this essay, of gender-bullying language…
    Calling a man a “diva” is clearly manhood-questioning language used as
    a gender insult and bullying tool by some people.

  11. J2 says:

    (contined)…calling a man who combs his hair a “diva” is like calling a woman who pumps her own gas a “dyke”. it is blatant and mean gender bullying.

  12. Kira R. says:

    Jamie, my husband was the jerk dad, too. I actually asked him to leave so I could labor in peace. The nurses thought he was a jerk, too. When I started pushing with my last baby, the doctor actually had to tell him to put away his smart phone and pay attention to his wife. It was embarrassing and it hurt. Once my daughter was born, he came to the hospital only when it was convenient for him.

  13. neal says:

    When the nurse asked me to cut the cord, I was like “no thanks, I’ll stay up here and hold my wife’s hand.”

    We had a midwife work with us int he hospital, and she explained that the dad was supposed to be the dam, and she was just there to plug the little holes. So, we got a doula, too, because I’ll be damned if I’m supposed to be a dam.

    Ended up, our doula was great, our midwife was horrible, and I talked my wife through twelve hours of hard labor, carrying a lot more burden than I’d expected, but that’s just what it ended up my wife needed and asked for. But I sure was glad for the back-up, and a doula who gave massages, since I’m crap at that.

    http://raisedbymydaughter.blogspot.com/

  14. Alley says:

    Mine was overbearing with me, but didn’t want to deal with my daughter. Explains the separation that ensued 3 months later.

  15. neal says:

    Also, I have to say that there’s something bizarre about people who feel like a man’s gotta cut the cord. I respect those who feel it allows the man a part to play in the process, but frankly, I already felt a part of the process. So, I was strong for my wife, but a weaney about the cord.

    And metaphorically, what does it mean for a man to cut the cord between a baby and its mama? Sounds kind of mean, to me. Like, “Sorry, wifey, you’ve had this close bond with the baby long enough, now it’s time for me to cut the cord and take it from you.” I mean, obviously the cord has to be cut. But that’s not the metaphor that made me feel like a dad.

    http://raisedbymydaughter.blogspot.com/

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