As a parent I am constantly faced with curveballs, milestones, and decisions to be made. Sometimes the decisions are quick and painless, and other times they are the result of much thought and/or stalling. Sometimes I just change the subject. I’m not above that.
Recently I found myself in a very unexpected and fairly awkward situation. My 8-year-old son put me in a position that I wasn’t quite prepared to be in. He brought up the topic of the birds and the bees, which was difficult enough, but it was in the context of a pretty sensitive situation that he had heard about at his school. There were so many levels of uncomfortable that even Dante would have been intimidated. What did I do? I went with the butterfly, the middleman of bird and bee relations. You can read about it on DadCentric.
It got me to thinking, which is always dangerous, about the fact that I never really had “the talk” with my parents when I was a kid. I’m 41, and at this point I’m pretty sure it’s not going to happen. However, there was a sex-ed class in 5th grade, boys in one room, girls in another, and I recall a book called “My Body and Me” showing up magically on my dresser one morning. The book was filled with illustrations that would make a 10-year-old boy giggle for hours. To be fair, a 41-year-old man would probably chuckle a bit, too. It’s widely accepted that drawings of wieners are always funny.
If you read the linked story you know that I didn’t really have “the talk” so much as a talk about having “the talk,” which is totally different. And yet it was close enough.
I assume that talking to kids about sexuality is one of the harder conversations in the parent and child dynamic, but I suppose there are others that may rank just as high. I’ll keep you posted as I find them.
What I want to know is, are you prepared to talk to your kid(s) about sex — or if you already have, how did it go? Tips and suggestions are welcome and appreciated (not for me, for a friend).
Whit Honea can be found writing about whatever he feels like at his personal site Honea Express (Honea sounds like pony) and DadCentric. If you’re really bored you can follow him on the Twitter (his opinions are his own and do not reflect those of Babble or most rational people).
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