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No Neckties, No Cologne: 20 Father’s Day Gifts I Really Want

By Serge Bielanko |

You guys are the gift.

Three-and-a-half years ago, when I first became a dad, I had no idea what I was in for.

No one ever knows, really.

One day you’re standing there, caught up in your own world, thinking about how you can make your life better;  thinking about what you can’t wait to do this weekend, and the next minute: everything has changed forever, in a zillion different ways. Of course, how you handle it, whether or not you choose to run with that new life you’ve inherited, is the only true and genuine measure of whether you ever achieve that much-coveted, magical “Daddy” title in this world, as opposed to simply being a “Father.”

Anyone can be a father.

Only the very best can be a dad.

(And in that sense of the wordplay, Father’s Day should probably be called Daddy’s Day. But I guess that’s a whole different debate, huh?)

My point is that being a daddy, just like being a mommy, is such a wild and wonderful trip, with so many hills to climb/lessons to learn/tears to dry/and hugs to collect along the way that sometimes it hardly seems like we were even actually living before the whippersnappers came along. We were, obviously; we were alive and kicking; but we were only cruising around the backstreets, you know? We weren’t anywhere near the fast main drag of BabyTown that we were headed for, whether or not we even knew it.

Father’s Day comes once a year, and if people wanna buy me presents, that’s cool. I’m not about to stand in their way. Because, as dumb as I am, and as thick-headed and slow, one thing I have definitely come to recognize is that there are, in fact, some really decent gifts that can be bought with cash money.

But, then again, there are so many, many more that are as free as the sun in the late morning sky.

Here’s my list, then.

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The Father's Day Gifts That Actually Matter

The Perfect CD

Most dads like some kind of music. He might be a Rolling Stones guy, maybe a Beatles guy. Or maybe he's Hank Williams all the way. Or jazz. Or swing. There's a trillion ways he might go when it comes to personal musical taste. One thing is for certain: when someone gives me a record (I'm a vinyl guy these days) it is almost always something that they took the time to search for, something they just knew that I would be into.

That says a lot about the gift itself, that they cared enough to find something right up my particular alley. Giving dad a CD or a record shows that you have been watching closely and really paying attention to the sounds that help him escape this crazy life.

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Serge Bielanko writes about fatherhood for Babble Dad and about marriage stuff for Babble Voices at He Said/She Said. His writing has appeared in Esquire and The Huffington Post, as well as on his personal blog, Thunder Pie. He lives with his wife and two kids in central Pennsylvania. Read bio and latest posts → Read Serge's latest posts →

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6 thoughts on “No Neckties, No Cologne: 20 Father’s Day Gifts I Really Want

  1. guajolote says:

    These are great. The point is to think about the man you are giving stuff to, what would HE like.

    My husband has no hobbies, except watching soccer… but your mention of “no cologne” made me remember that he does actually like wearing smelly stuff. I don’t so I never think of it. Maybe that weekend I will be sure we have fixings for his favorite breakfasts, make sure his game is not interrupted, and perhaps a bottle of cologne (which I agree is lame but since he does wear it…)

    1. sergebielanko says:

      Thanks guajolote! And cologne is actually a really cool gift for the man who is suave enough to pull it off. I’m sure your hubby is that way. Me: I end up smelling like a a cologne tanker wreck on the highway. Take care.

  2. drea22 says:

    One of the best (even if the only) gifts that my husband and I give each other for Mother’s/Father’s Day is to give each other a whole day of all the fun with the kids and none of the work. on our day, we don’t have to change diapers, put anyone in timeout, chase someone to get dressed, nor putting anyone to be (except reading bedtime stories maybe). Also, no housework; so no dishes, no sweeping, no cleaning messes, and no picking up toys. Other than sleeping in, that’s always what we look forward to.

  3. Lynn Williams says:

    This article depicts how every kid in the world hopes his dad feels about him and his family. What blessed children you have. Hope you have the very best Father’s Day!

    1. sergebielanko says:

      Thanks so much, Lynn! That means a lot to me.

  4. nate torrens says:

    Serge,I really, really enjoyed this entry- and am grateful our friend Don R showed me the way- to you, and your writing. Awesome, dude. I’m especially with you on, 2 things…the cologne thing- and definitely your take on the title of “Daddy”. Fathers are like 120 pennies…a dime a dozen.
    Good stuff, man. I’m gonna keep up and catch up…this is first one I read. peace.

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