A few months ago I wrote a post titled Top 10 Things Mothers do Better than Fathers. The post garnered a little more attention than I had anticipated, and not the type of attention that I was expecting.
The post was published as a humor piece and nothing out of the ordinary happened during the first week it was live. Then one morning several days later a steady stream of angry comments started trickling in. That stream of angry comments turned into a flood of angry comments.
Next thing I knew, there were blog posts popping up throughout the interwebs angrily critiquing that post. Facebook commenters battled about what mothers do better than fathers and whether it was even fair to have such a baited conversation. I could tell that this post was going in the wrong direction and things were only going to get worse.
It’s now around two months later, conversations have been had, dad blogs have been read, and things have calmed down. Regardless of the tone of the comments and articles about my post, I learned a few things that I didn’t know before.
The battles the dad blog community was fighting were completely unknown to me. To be honest, I’m not even sure I knew a stay-at-home dad at that time. Prior to writing for the Dadding Blog, I went about my daily work routine in the real world (as opposed to the Internet world) surrounded by dads who were just like me, and it was within that frame of mind that I wrote that post. I wrote the 10 things mothers do better than fathers, which were all intended as self-deprecating mentions of what my wife does better than me, as generalizations because they were all a source of laughter for all the dads I knew in my world. I didn’t expect anyone to take them seriously, and I certainly didn’t expect anyone to be offended by the generalizations. Unfortunately, I was ignorant to the fact that there was this section of the population that would be offended and hurt by my generalizations. However, I’m starting to understand why these generalizations cause such a ruckus.
In a recent study conducted by TODAY and Parenting.com, it was revealed that nearly 75% of moms believe that they do the majority of the parenting, while 50% of fathers believe they share the parenting responsibilities equally with mothers. The study also revealed that two-thirds of fathers want the jobs they do as parents to be received with some kind of acknowledgement of a job well done from their partner. That includes dads who aren’t stay-at-home dads. The study showed that even fathers who go out and take on a traditional career are more involved in their kids’ lives than fathers from previous generations. Given the mothers’ belief that fathers aren’t doing their fair share of the parenting, the much needed and deserved acknowledgement from society of the jobs fathers are doing is probably lacking. If nothing else, this survey shows that dads need a little more recognition for their increased work in the home.
Here are the top 10 things I learned from readers and commenters from my post Top Ten Thing Mothers do Better than Fathers and a little acknowledgement from this father to you other fathers who are doing one hell of a job:
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