Last year, when we inaugurated our Top 50 Dad Blogs list, we praised dad bloggers for “changing the way we think about fatherhood.” Indeed, a number of our favorite bloggers on this, our second Top 50 list, insist our thinking needs to be changed. They describe themselves as advocates for fathers, taking to their keyboards in order to counter dominant cultural stereotypes of dad-as-incompetent-buffoon. (You don’t believe them? Tune in to most any family sitcom on most any night of the week.) Others on the list aspire simply to entertain us with funny, relatable tales from the trenches. A few write to work through the shattering grief of losing a child or spouse.
This list features straight dads, gay dads, working dads, stay-at-home dads, geek dads, single dads, and more. In a culture where the dominant conversations around fatherhood center simply on whether dads can deign to change their kid's diaper, it's refreshing to see these guys take the public perception of parents into their own hands. We are again struck by the variety of their voices and experiences, which itself puts the lie to the notion of any one “typical dad.” A lot of our favorites from last year are back, while many worthy entrants are making their debuts. We hope you’ll enjoy laughing, crying, nodding, and discovering along with them as much as we have. As dads' online influence grows, this list will only become more and more difficult to curate — and that's a good problem to have. If you think we missed any of your favorite dad bloggers, nominate them here. – Barbara Spindel and the dad blog panel
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The term “lesbian dad” refers to the half of a lesbian couple who fulfills the parenting role traditionally associated with the father. The blog “Lesbian Dad” concerns, as its author eloquently puts it, “parenthood generally, and lesbian parenthood in particular, with special attention to the experiences of non-birth and/or butch mums and the many larger questions our unique kind of parenthood opens up.”
Sleekly designed and smartly written, Lesbian Dad (also featured on last year’s list), is a great resource for lesbian parents and those who want to know more about their experiences. More than that, though, the blog is a heartfelt tribute to Lesbian Dad’s daughter and son. The family lives in Berkeley, California, on the same lot as LD’s brother-in-law and his wife and kids. There are “four kids smack dab inside a big, honkin’, process-happy, self-employed/self-empowered wolf pack of non-nuclear arse-kicking extended family. They don’t know how good they got it,” Lesbian Dad writes, adding drily, “Later, when they’re in therapy, we’ll discover the tidbits we’ve overlooked. Ahem.”