So apparently there are rules of wedding gift etiquette that involves the value of the gifts given. Who knew? I wouldn’t be surprised if I’ve violated every one of those rules in the past.
When Casey and I got married we were pretty excited about the wedding gift part of the whole thing. We headed to a few local stores and started a registry. I walked around with the registry scanner gun and Casey pointed at random things and told me to scan them onto our list of things we wanted. We didn’t agree on everything that was scanned onto the list, mostly because Casey didn’t think we needed four or five deep fryers. We also disagreed on the value of items that should be included on the list.
Casey had me scan a washer and dryer onto the list with a hefty price tag that I didn’t think anyone would ever pay. Who spends more than $25 – $50 on a wedding gift? Well, Casey’s grandparents are the kind of people who pay that kind of money for a wedding gift. Thanks Casey’s grandparents.
But apparently everyone is supposed to pay that kind of money on wedding gifts which has caused a bit of a storm going on in Canada after a couple gave a newly wedded couple a basket full of different kinds of oils and food. After receiving the basket of food and oil, the newly wedded couple first asked for a receipt from the gift givers so they could return the items. When that request didn’t go over so well the newly wedded couple then scolded the gift giving couple for not doing the appropriate thing by leaving an envelope full of cash. The newly wedded couple claimed that because they spent $97 per person to attend the wedding that they should have received about $250 in cash from each couple that attended the wedding because weddings are supposed to be a chance for the guests to give the newly wedded couples a good financial start.
Really? When did weddings become a money making scheme?
I’m going to be very blunt here for any of my friends who plan on inviting me to their wedding. I’m not your bank. I’m not the means by which you finance your wedding. If that’s a problem, don’t invite me to your wedding. None of you gave me wads of cash when I got married and I’m perfectly fine with that. I didn’t expect any of you to increase my bottom line. I expected to get some household goods and appliances that would help my wife and I fill our empty kitchen and house and I still have most of the items we got as gifts at our wedding and they get used pretty often (well, Casey did make me get rid of the Fry Daddy after I gained 70 pounds after our wedding).
So, if you invite me to your wedding, you can expect a gift with a value of somewhere between $25 – $50. I won’t leave you an envelope of cash, because, well, I think that’s tacky. You want an okay blender? I’m your man. You want a spatula set? It’s on its way. You want a gift card? I’ll even go the gift card route. However, if you expect a wad of cash that will help you recoup your wedding costs and make you a profit, just save some of that money you would have spent on postage and dinner, because I won’t deliver on your expectations.
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