Whenever you hear another celeb spout off about how to be a mom, does it make you a teeny weeny bit angry? Do you ever think, “Well how can she find it hard, with her trainers and personal chef and assistants and all!?”
Maybe that’s just me! Anyway, the thing is, sometimes the famous folk still can offer up some pearls of wisdom on how to raise kids. After all, it doesn’t matter how much money or how many resources you have, kids still want their mom. We are all, no matter who we are, juggling life as a parent, whether it be through work, caring for relatives, running a home, volunteering, or just trying to make ends meet. We are all just trying our best.
As Sarah Jessica Parker states below, we shouldn’t be judging each other or the choices we have made. Whether or not we had a natural birth or a C-section, whether we breastfed or bottle fed, whether we feed our kids organic or not, it doesn’t matter. What matters is getting through the day and giving ourselves a huge pat on the back!
I remember when I was a new mom back in the summer of 2006 — I was scared to even venture to the local coffee shop. I was so terrified my son would cry and everyone would look at me and I wouldn’t have a CLUE what to do. I thought everyone would point out, “There’s the bad mother! Look, her baby won’t stop crying!” I lived in fear of judgement and was convinced everything I was doing was totally wrong. But I got into the swing of things, and by Baby No. 2, I was like, “Who cares if my baby cries? I need a coffee and a muffin!”
Receiving advice from friends was paramount in making me feel much better. I gained comfort from others offering suggestions here and there — not to force opinions down my throat, just to help. So without further ado, I give you the best bits of parenting advice from our favorite celebrities!
Gwyneth Paltrow: You can’t have it all 1 of 10
"I look for an interesting supporting part about once a year. That's the most I can manage. Some women can do it [all] and that's fantastic, but I can't. You make choices as a wife and mother, don't you? You can't have it all. I don't care what it looks like."
What this really means to moms: If Gwynnie, with her nannies and personal trainers, can't have it all, then no one can! It is reassuring that no matter what you do in life, you are always having to make choices as a mom. We can only do our best and sometimes, something has to give.
Beyonce: Breastfeeding can help you lose baby weight 2 of 10
"After being pumped with those fluids and gaining so much weight… I barely recognized myself." After giving birth, BeyoncÃ© breastfed Blue for 10 weeks. "I encourage women to do it; it's just so good for the baby and good for [your]self."
What this really means to moms: You don't just have to breastfeed to lose baby weight, and not every woman who breastfeeds finds that the weight automatically drops off. However you choose to feed your baby, it is YOUR choice. The one thing that B. does promote is doing what works for you!
Kate Winslet: Routine is so important 3 of 10
"To me, parenting is about consistency, among other things, and routine. Children love routine. They like to know when they're going to have lunch, and in what order things will happen during their day."
What this really means to moms: Kate is right — kids do love routine, and it helps them feel secure and encourages them to form healthy sleeping and eating patterns. Plus, when the kids are in bed, us moms get a break! So it's a win-win for everyone.
Snooki: Play music to soothe your baby 4 of 10
In an open letter she penned to Kate Middleton, Snooki wrote: "Be sure to sing to your baby a lot, too! When I sing to my booger, he calms down and stares at me like he's in love, which makes me feel amazing. Anyway, music calms them down. I'm pretty sure you can have anyone you want over to sing to your little one … maybe a lullaby from Elton John?"
What this really means to moms: Playing soft music around bedtime can help wind down any child. Who doesn't love hearing a lullaby before they slumber? It's a cute way to bond with your baby and encourage a peaceful sleep.
Tina Fey: Keep going! 5 of 10
"I think every working mom probably feels the same thing: You go through big chunks of time where you're just thinking, 'This is impossible — oh, this is impossible.' And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible."
What that really means to moms: Like Dory in Finding Nemo, we all should "just keep swimming." We'll have good days and bad days and a whole range of days in between. But they will pass. Before you know it, your baby is all grown up! So enjoy the journey in doing the impossible.
Salma Hayek: Put your baby to sleep every night 6 of 10
"When Valentina was not even one month old, my aunt [gave me the best advice]: â€˜Put her to sleep yourself every night. Sing to her and cradle her in your arms and sit by her side — every night.' Because one day you won't be able to, and it's going to happen really fast."
What this really means to moms: Putting your baby to sleep is not always possible for every mom, as some may be working. But when you can, it is great to be able to put your little one to bed by reading a story or singing a nursery rhyme or two. Even if you have a gazillion chores to do, those moments are precious and are gone all too soon. Take the time, and enjoy every moment.
Tori Spelling: Trust your own instincts 7 of 10
"The best tip I ever got when I had my firstborn, someone said to me, 'Don't listen to what everyone says, trust your maternal instinct, that'll always be the best way to go.' That's held true through both my children and my new pregnancy."
What this really means to moms: Sometimes there is just too much advice! I read so many books when my son was first born that I felt like my head was spinning. At the end of the day, only YOU know YOUR baby best. So trust your instincts — most of the time, they will be right!
Sarah Jessica Parker: Don’t judge or be judged about what you do as a mom 8 of 10
"I'm genuinely more interested in how other women make it work. How do we identify as mothers? How much attention do we give to other people's opinions of the choices we make. I'm not bitter, but I'm still surprised at the objections that women are bold enough to articulate about other women they don't know. My God, in this scary time, when the majority of people in the world are clinging to safety in some way, isn't this the most perfect occasion for us to say that sisterhood is more important than ever?"
What this really means to moms: It doesn't matter what your neighbor does or your best friend — everyone approaches motherhood differently, and that is okay. Just because it works for another mom doesn't mean it will work, or should work, for you. Give yourself a break — you are doing a great job!
Felicity Huffman: Motherhood can be boring, but also wonderful 9 of 10
"Realize something that no one tells you: sometimes it's incredibly boring, but most of the time, it's wonderful."
What this really means to moms: Motherhood can be dull — it can feel like a complete relentless grind. But in the middle of all the laundry and nappies and lack of sleep and tiredness are moments of exquisite joy. Nothing can prepare you for the love you'll feel for that little person you are raising. Like everything in life, there are rough patches. But the highs are worth it!
Nicole Richie: Keep a record of all the funny things your kids do 10 of 10
"Kids are so funny. My mom told me you should write down every cute thing that they do because you will forget. Joel and I really write down every adorable thing they do and save them."
What this really means for moms: If you have time (!), it is great to jot things down, write a blog, or keep a journal or a photo album. As time passes so quickly, we often forget little quirky things our kids said or did. Years later, when we get to read back over the entries, we see all the things we would have otherwise forgotten. A golden tip! Make the time!
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