Elton John and his partner David Furnish announced that they will marry in May, now that gay marriage is legal in England.
“We’ll do it very quietly. But we will do it and it will be a joyous occasion and we will have our children…For this legislation to come through is joyous and we should celebrate it. We shouldn’t just say, ‘Oh, well, we have a civil partnership, we’re not going to bother to get married.’ We will get married.”
The couple — parents of Zachary, 3, and Elijah, 1 — are obviously already committed in all ways, as partners and parents. The addition of legal marriage in their home country is an opportunity to be truly married, and not just civilly partnered, under the law. This action has proven to be meaningful for so many long-partnered gay couples around the world as countries and states in the United States have joined the list of places where their unions are now recognized legally. John’s partner, David Furnish, told the Las Vegas Review Journal that they feel it’s important to recognize the right to marry:
“We don’t feel the need to take an extra step legally. But since we’re committed for life, we feel it’s really important to take that step, and take advantage of that amazing change in legislation. We all live by example…We’re living in extraordinary times. My God, 20 years ago, when I started seeing Elton, if you asked me if I’d be able to get married, if I’d be able to have children, it was unthinkable, literally unimaginable.”
When I read the news, you’d have thought I was really going to get the invitation I would love to receive in my mailbox. That’s how excited I was for two men I’ve never met. Then again, I always have been a little emotionally attached to Elton, but that’s what happens when you grow up with someone’s music and take it with you into adulthood. Besides being extraordinarily talented, I think one of the reasons Elton is such a legendary figure in pop culture is his ability to reinvent himself and to evolve — musically, personally, and publicly. His abilities as a vocalist, pianist, and showman stay constant, but he switches up his music. It never stays the same. This is one of the qualities I admire the most in any artist, and human being. He has also shared his life with the public in a way that has always seemed to garner more acceptance, because he just does it. He lives his life, like anyone should be able to do.
Furnish said that this time around, their party will be more low-key:
“We do like big parties. Over eight years ago, we had 650 people on the 21st of December at our house in Windsor. But with the kids, everything is different. I think what we’ll do is go to a registry office in England in May, and take the boys with us, and a couple of witnesses.”
Fine. Sometimes it’s not about the size of the party — it’s who’s there and why. So I’d still appreciate an invitation that I’ll never get to the wedding of two very high-profile men who have committed their lives to each other in love and family. That their country will now recognize their union legally on a level with any other couple is what makes it a big deal. Because equality is fabulous.
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