People either love Gwyneth Paltrow or hate Gwyneth Paltrow but there aren’t many who lie in the valley between those two opinions. To many she comes off as entitled, elitist, cold and out of touch with real women. Her lifestyle branding confirms all that with suggestions of $290 sweatpants on her site GOOP and her cookbook It’s All Good, which includes ingredients that are not easy for some to afford or find.
Then there are her superstar friends (Beyonce, Cameron Diaz, Stella McCartney), her red carpet moments, the parties, the award shows, and the jet-setting (right now she is vacationing on a private estate in the Bahamas). Then there was the HUGE news of her breakup with husband Chris Martin and their “conscious uncoupling.” All of a sudden there was trouble in paradise! Her life wasn’t totally perfect! She suddenly became human, a mother going through a tough time (even though she broke the news on her website and coined a cutesy tagline for the breakup replacing “divorce” with “uncoupling”).
And then there is THIS. A week before her and Chris’ breakup was announced, she spoke to E! about her work-life saying that she has a “rule about one movie a year” so she can be there for her family and work on other projects. “I don’t like to be the lead so I don’t [have] to work every day, you know,” she added. Sorry, but not having to be the lead so you don’t have to work everyday isn’t something most of us working moms can relate to. But it gets worse:
“I think it’s different when you have an office job, because it’s routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and then you come home in the evening. When you’re shooting a movie, they’re like, ‘We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,’ and then you work 14 hours a day and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.”
I think pretty much ANY working mother would trade doing one movie a year, even having to go somewhere for two weeks, than working a 9-5 job. But here is the thing: We shouldn’t expect Gwyneth to be “just like us.” She isn’t. She was born into Hollywood privilege and has grown up and lived a life that most of us could only dream about. We shouldn’t expect that she’d be like the mom next door. But it makes it harder to like her or have empathy for her when she implies that having a 9-5 office job is easier than being a movie star.
Then you have to think about it from her point of view. She has to drop everything when making a movie, uprooting her life and putting her soul into another character. All routine is lost for her and her children. While she’s away making movies, she is losing big chunks of time with them. While we may not have fame and fortune, most of us moms aren’t plucked from our families for weeks at a time nor would many of us want to be. I know when I am away from my family for just a couple of days, I yearn to see them and miss all those little things like dropping my daughter off at school or making dinner.
Ultimately, it comes down to this: There is no easy way to be a mom. Whether you’re rich or poor, famous or not, young or old — being a mom is a tough job.
What do you think about Gwyneth when she makes statements like this?
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