She told the Today Show that when they called her up to do re-shoots for Divergent she thought, “How am I going to do this?” As a new mom and even later as the mother of 4 children, I’ve asked myself the same thing: How am I going to do this?
Kate Winslet answered her own question in a way that mothers have been answering it through the ages, “… Somehow, you do.”
There’s no trick to it. Or there are multiple little different tricks that you can try, but ultimately you just do it. That’s motherhood for you. You know it. I know it. Kate Winslet knows it. She summed the gig up so perfectly in her interview. It doesn’t matter that she’s a rich and famous movie star — the motherhood part is the same.
Kate Winslet explains what it was like to work on the movie 6-weeks-postpartum, “I would feed and shoot and nurse and the milk would go back to the hotel and my equipment would come back, and we’d do the stunt and I’d act,” she said.
The details are different for civilian moms like us, but you know the drill. We’ve all been there in that cycle of momming it up, balancing motherhood with other parts of life, and momming it up some more.
And then Kate Winslet issued the most perfect statement about motherhood. She says, “There’s something really empowering about going, ‘Hell, I can do this! I can do this all!’ That’s the wonderful thing about mothers, you can because you must, and you just DO.”
I don’t have a star on the Walk of Fame, and it’s not just me being modest when I say my chances of winning an Oscar® are zero. But I have felt empowered through mothering. Going through it and just doing it (because, like Kate says, you must) is empowering. You gain confidence and learn that you can do it. I’m not an expert on motherhood, but I’m surviving it and that is a triumph.
I love Kate’s quote because it’s not divisive at all. It’s not about being a stay-at-home-mom or a mom who gave birth naturally or a mom who homeschools or doesn’t vaccinate. It touches on the common ground parents share, which is the urgency we must perform this role with. You wake up in the morning to a hungry toddler. You can feed it gluten-free pancakes or Fruit Loops, but you’ve got to get up and feed that kid. My son fell off the swings at school and severely broke his arm. I rushed him to a doctor, as any parent would, and it didn’t matter whether I was on Obamacare or not. (I didn’t have any insurance at the time, actually.)
Parenting is not for the faint of heart. We may all do it a little differently — picking up an Academy Award® or two along the way — but we all know that what we’re doing matters.
It matters the most. And so we must. And so we just do!
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