It turns out that Maria Bello is as eloquent a writer as she is an actress.
The New York Times published an article entitled “Coming Out as a Modern Family,” where she reveals that she is, for the first time, in a relationship with a woman.
Almost simultaneously, Maria tweeted a picture of her girlfriend Clare Munn, her son Jackson, and his father, TV executive Dan McDermott, with the caption: ‘Giving thanks for my modern family. Happy thanksgiving for whatever kind of family you have.’
Maria, 46, star of films such as A History of Violence and Prisoners wrote of how she explained her new relationship to her 12-year-old son Jackson. “He asked, “So are you romantic with anyone right now?” I took a deep breath, knowing that my answer, and his response, would have an impact on our lives for a very long time.”
“He was right; I was with someone romantically and I hadn’t told him,” she writes. “I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son.”
She continues, “I exhaled and finally said it: ‘Clare.’”
“He looked at me for what seemed like an eternity and then broke into a huge, warm smile. ‘Mom, love is love, whatever you are,’ he said with wisdom beyond his years.”
In this beautifully honest piece she says, “I loved him so much for saying that. ‘But Jack, I’m a little scared,’ I said. ‘When I was younger, people judged you if you were in a romantic relationship with a person of the same sex, and some still do. So I’m not sure how to deal with this. But we’ll figure it out together.’”
Maria Bello has always been a great actress, and now she is a brave writer. To be unapologetic and honest about her family, her life and who she loves, in the conservatism of Hollywood, is a gutsy thing to do.
In the conclusion of her piece she writes: “Maybe, in the end, a modern family is just a more honest family.”
Her modern family looks pretty amazing to me.
Photo Credit: @maria_bello