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The 25 Biggest Male Turn-Offs

By Lori Garcia |

Ladies, we might know how to turn a man on, but do we know what turns him off?

While there’s no doubt your feminine wiles are powerful man magnets, there are things you do – things we all do – that turn men off big time. I dare you to type “biggest male turn-offs” into your search engine, and you’ll see there’s no shortage of information on the subject. If you’re anything like me, you’ll soon realize you’ve been turning off men since you started trying to turn them on. Eh, whatevs.

Check out 25 of the biggest male turn-offs after the jump; let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

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Top Male Turn Offs


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Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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55 thoughts on “The 25 Biggest Male Turn-Offs

  1. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    “Have any more to add?” Nope. I think you’ve sufficiently covered every single cliche possible in the brief time you’ve been writing for Strollerderby. I don’t know who hired you or thought you’d bring something special to the table, but they were wrong.

    1. mommyfriend says:

      Oh Linda, I’ve missed you :) Thanks for reading!

  2. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    That’s the problem. You’re missing everyone and everything from the proverbial boat to your target audience (notice how no one comments, ever). And actually, Strollerderby is like a mausoleum of late. The editors should ensure that you all are posting quality content with great writing and an interesting point of view, or shut the thing down. I’m a long time reader, and while you may not like my comments, other people have just stopped showing up. Even though I don’t always agree with them, at least Meredith and CC are bringing something to the table. I sincerely don’t even get why they’re having you write these triet, dreadful relationship/wedding posts. It’s a parenting blog, or it used to be. Now it’s just lame and unenjoyable. I can’t believe that’s the GOAL.

  3. classycareergirl says:

    This is a good heads up for all the women! I’d agree with Linda, you covered every single cliche possible. Good Job and thanks!

  4. Susie says:

    yep, yep, yep…we need more…there’s a lot of good, interesting discussion out there and it’s not here…go over to Motherlode or even Jezebel for ideas (they used to seem to do that…)

  5. bunnytwenty says:

    I’m gonna have to concur with Linda here. Also: seriously, articles like this basically tell women, “Don’t do anything you might want to do; don’t show emotion; just cater to your man, period, always, or he might never want to touch you again.” To call it sexist is a massive, massive understatement – it’s basically saying that women need to be superhuman in order for a man to even get a chubby, which we all know isn’t true. Why would you endorse these sorts of ideas? I mean, cripes, lady, you’re a woman too – why author woman-hating, relationship-damaging crap like this?

  6. e says:

    If you don’t have something nice to say…

  7. bunnytwenty says:

    You’re right – she had nothing nice to say, so perhaps she shouldn’t have written this article.

  8. goddess says:

    I agree with Linda, and Bunny. If my man was THAT high-maintenance I’d show him the front door.

  9. Diera says:

    I think you could have summed this up more quickly. Turn-on: be so naturally attractive that you’re uber-hot without much makeup, show up on time smelling good, do him, and leave promptly without any unnecessary chit-chat or accidentally forgetting any belongings. Basically, emulate a very high-end hooker.

  10. bunnytwenty says:

    I would really appreciate it, as a reader, if the author would take responsibility and explain to us why she posted it and how it is useful to her readers. Or, apologize for the offense. Just something, anything, to show that you take your readership seriously.

  11. James says:

    Show me the front door ladies. I’m a man and every single one of these is true. What’s the matter, can’t handle the truth?

  12. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    She won’t and neither will the Strollerderby editors, otherwise there would not be any more stock photo slide shows. My feeling is that it’s probably just best to find a different blog that actually has disucssions about parenting.

  13. Manjari says:

    I have to agree with the others. This is boring, silly, sexist nonsense, and it’s the reason I’m not here as much as I have been for the last 5 years.

  14. Manjari says:

    I also don’t understand the compulsion to continue writing the same sad posts that have provoked negative reactions in the past. We don’t like slide shows when the photos aren’t crucial to the post. We don’t like silly, sexist stereotypes. It’s been said over and over. What is the point of insisting on repeating posts like this? Is the goal to alienate everyone and end up with no readers? Why?

  15. Paul says:

    Good Lord, Ladies. Why would the author apologize? All these things you ladies are known for are turn-offs for sure. Before you get all upset, maybe you should ask a man if he agrees because this man does.

  16. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    Thank for your input, Big Daddy P(aul) .@@

  17. Jay says:

    Ladies, get off your soap boxes! Yes, these are trite. Yes, these are cliched. That happens because they’re true VERY often! Nobody is suggesting that women be superhuman, cater to their men, or never show emotion. What this article is suggesting is not to never do these things. Frankly, that would bore most of us guys to tears. What it IS suggesting is, if you display any of the behaviors CONSISTENTLY, you might want to reexamine your own personal stability! Any of these things individually is not big deal Any of them done ALL THE TIME would be a very big deal.

    Just like all the irritating things us guys do. Sure, once every so often, no big deal, you can live with it. It’s when we do them OVER AND OVER again that it becomes a big deal.

  18. alex says:

    ok so im a guy and this is my first time reading anything on this website but i don’t understand all the negative comments. if any of you were my girl, your bags would have been packed long ago. is she wrong in saying that any of these are turn offs? because to me and a majority of men this list is 100% accurate. and if you didn’t want to read an article about things women do that men don’t like, why did you click on it in the first place?

  19. Hi says:

    Excellent article,

    For all you ladies who are hating on MommyFriend,
    you’d be better off not saying anything, because I am frankly disgusted by your undignified comments. If this article is really bothering you, please don’t read. Or at least keep your mouths shut.

  20. Kate says:

    Well, this is the first and last article I’m going to read by strollerderby. Please change the name to pamperdaddy, as it is more fitting. I don’t believe this article was written by a woman, much less a mother, or she would realize that all of these are turn-offs to women as well. Why would the last one be the only one described as “this is one where both sexes agree”? Do women like momma’s boys with star wars toys all over his bedroom? Is that what MommyFriend is married to? If not, why is that not also listed as an issue upon which both sexes agree? I dare say that hygiene offenders are men 3 times more often than women. And how would a “mommy” even know what a guy wants?

    I know what a guy wants – he’ll chug a beer and watch his sports while you keep the kids out of his hair, and then you can finish the day faking an orgasm, and it’s certainly fun to learn about all of this with demeaning terms like “sister” thrown in. No guy wants to help with the dishes! Take out the trash? No way! And he doesn’t want to hear about how he never helps out, either, because nagging is a turn off. Why, oh why, do women nag? Don’t they realize it’s a turn off? Don’t they want their quota of man time in the bedroom tonight?

    The author of this article is a misogynist man, but I’ll grant him that all of these can be turned around and explained to men as turn-off behavior as well, and it would be entirely correct. It’s a good thing all men and women ever wish to do is turn eachother on. Oh, no wait, the man wouldn’t even watch football if that were the case. Sorry to break it to you, guys, but we women have better things to worry about as well, than whether we are constantly sexy enough to turn on our beer-chugging, ball scratching, football boob-tube glued man.

  21. datagirl57 says:

    Gee – sounds like the ladies commenting are the very high-maintenance, bossy, complaining girls the article was describing! NONE of the suggestions should be carried to extreme, but I agreed with most all. Guys are really turned off by today’s bossy high-maintenance women that try and tell them what to do and what to watch. AND the man should reciprocate with not trying to change her either. Grow up – it’s not all about you.

  22. bob says:

    I have been married 29 years. These are all things (most of them anyway) that have come up in one way or another. Yes, constant reminding is nagging. Shut up. Etc. You want to get married? You gotta see it aint all about you, honey. And that means you might have to get it together and make an effort. And keep making that effort if you want to keep him (and stay married). Can’t make a guy love you. But you can make him want to stay if he does love you. You also can make him leave. Just treat him poorly.

  23. Dave says:

    Oh, you missed a BIG one! Peeing with the bathroom door open so that the guy can hear you doing your business, or worse yet, coming into the bathroom while he’s showering, and going to the bathroom while he’s showering! Cialis couldn’t help after that!!

  24. Ariol Limage says:

    Geez, ladies! She’s not saying you shouldn’t do any of those things, just not constantly. This isn’t about women-hating, because a couple of months ago, there was an article about things women hate that men do. It’s funny, there was no bashing then as it is for this article. Men and women have things they hate about eachother.
    Kate’s comment seemed more sexist than the article(which didn’t seem sexist at all). No one expects a superwoman, or superman.
    If this all so cliched, then why get so pissy when it’s mentioned?
    Maybe some of the things mentioned are true.

  25. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    “if any of you were my girl, your bags would have been packed long ago. is she wrong in saying that any of these are turn offs?” Are you effin’ kidding me? Like you’d have a shot! Pfffffffttttttt. You neanderthals showing up just proves what were saying.

  26. UFOBill says:

    1. Talking too much about Feminine Hygiene…???
    2. Aggressively Conducting/Doing Housework over his quiet time/sports to break his spirit so he’ll STOP&Give-in join-in and give-up his past time that You feel isn’t as important as Yours!!!(Deliberately Vacuuming in front of T.V.)
    3. (Keeping Private Intimate Details of Your Private Life-”PRIVATE”)

  27. Dee Morgan says:

    Why is it every time I see these articles it’s all about the men – What men hate, what turns men on, what men like? It’s time to do some “what women like” things. Why do women always have to be the one to change??

  28. otmusic says:

    Who in the heck wants to turn them on anyway. Is that our job????

    A Woman

  29. H says:

    Women are the most self-righteous beings.

    A Woman

  30. ELA says:

    Alll of those things turn women off when MEN do them also. I didn’t see one thing listed that a man HASN’T done in my dating history, which is why i didn’t keep them around, and partly because i know better than to do those things already, THEY should too. (without me haveing to tell them…because they should be grown a** men)
    Also, I agree with Dee Morgan above.

  31. HiDenisity says:

    If You have to worry about being someone else to please a man, just forget him. There are plenty of men who want a real woman and reallity is that men need women more than women need men.

  32. Rebecca says:

    UNDER drama it says “go ahead and cry, shop, take a walk, etc.” but then it says CRYING IS A “TURNOFF”. Nobody’s perfect and if you have to change yourself because a man can’t accept your flaws then forget him. All of us women are either a little emotional at times, a little needy, have some drama, don’t know sports, are immature at times, if GUYS CAN’T DEAL WITH IT THEN become GAY! LOL. Men have their turnoffs too! And I have to say on behalf of my female gender that most of mens turnoffs are more annoying than women’s! Oh I could make a huge list of man turnoffs!!

  33. Thederp says:

    I agree with some of these a lot of these, but some of them are stupid. Being a little girl? If your toys aren’t in his room who cares? Its also funny because ‘trying to change him’ is in there, lol. Also crying? Sure no one wants to date a blubbering baby, but do you want to date a stonefaced, unfeeling person who never reacts humanly to life’s struggles? I hate to see my boyfriend cry but only because I wish I could help more.

  34. Nelyya says:

    I think men and women could both learn a bit by reading articles like this. I don’t think the writer meant to insult women, it’s meant for entertainment. Obviously all these things can be a turnoff if done excessively.

  35. Maria says:

    So, conversely, top 25 things that turn a man on?
    Be happy all the time
    Live somewhere else
    Don’t remain on good terms with ex-boyfriends, be bitchy
    Defer to man on all making of plans
    Always know exactly what you want to do at all times
    Don’t be too nice
    Don’t have confidence in yourself
    Don’t know what you want and ask for it
    Read his mind
    Don’t read articles that he wants you to read
    The world revolves around his hobbies
    Throw away your childhood teddy bear
    Put everything else before yourself, ergo be a mother
    Just let your zits be free
    Hold your toungue
    Don’t make reasonable requests
    Don’t get mad
    Don’t say anything wrong ever.
    Don’t have standards
    Don’t be too funny, it makes him look less cool
    Be more slutty
    Don’t try to help him
    Don’t get too drunk, even though that’s how he got you in the first place, its no longer cute
    Realize he is perfect and you’re the one with the issues
    Never skip a shower (but see previous rule about high maintenance)

    1. joe c. says:


  36. Christine says:

    Shoes I wear what I’ll be able to stand to be in longest not what’s the sexiest lol, sports that’s fine what ever…but if you say I know we had this plan but I want to watch this game so we’re not doing it or turn to a game in the middle of a movie our 3 year old is watching then we have an issue, I don’t make plans for him…but he does make plans to go spend a week up in Michigan with his family then says hey do you want to go visit my family after it’s all set in stone. Stuffed animals…most we have are our 3 year olds but I have a few that are mine (3 I actually made in home ec, a couple old school ones like my original care bear from the year I spent in childrens hospital). Hubby doesn’t mind me having them but I don’t display them..they’re put away. Heavy make up I don’t do…stage make up only happens when I’m in a theater production. :) And mothering him I don’t do either but if he gets the sniffles I automatically have a 2nd 3 year old on my hands.

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  38. Dave says:

    This is pretty accurate. Ladies, if you are guilty of these things, you are a BAD GIRLFRIEND. Seriously, try to grow a little instead of going all butt hurt and defensive. These things seriously annoy us and drive us away. If you don’t want to become a better person, then don’t be surprised by how well things don’t work out for you. If you make us miserable, we will leave.

    And it is very fitting that the first one is crying. Don’t cry. If you have to cry, go cry somewhere else. It makes us want to puke. It’s true no matter how much it makes you want to cry. Stop it.

  39. ProudLady says:

    Fellow ladies,
    this is an article not a contract you are obligated to sign and follow. Chill out. This is supposed to be realistically funny, and to me it was. If you didn’t like the article then stop reading it and move on… If inclined to comment on it do it in a gown up manner, no need to diminish de author or the site…I’m pretty sure if I show this article to my boyfriend he’ll ask me to frame it and hang it in my bedroom, just so I won’t forget these valuable tips :-D

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  42. Heather says:

    Wow, Dave, you are a typical jerk. If men do not want to see women cry, then don’t do things that drive them to tears. Do not dish out what you cannot take. If you do not want a woman to nag at you about chores, then do them before your games or during commercial breaks. You’d be amazed at the things you can accomplish in 5 minutes. Not all women are clueless about sports.

    The reason why many women are upset about these articles is because these are so cliched articles. I actuallly do not cry that often, but when I do, it is usually a death of someone close to me that took me by surprise or something serious. Since I am an introvert, I usually hide when I am angry or hurt. However, many people that I know, mainly men, always try to follow me around and make me feel worse. When I say to leave me alone, I MEAN IT. There are no hidden messages. I am a very simple person. I say what I mean and mean what I say.

    Many of the things listed here are things that both men and women do and both men and women hate to see in others. Don’t want these things to happen to you? Don’t do it to them, and don’t put up with it, it they do these things to you.

    It’s funny how a little common sense and a little bit of effort into a relationship can make such a huge difference in the big picture.

  43. My take says:

    Nobody is perfect, sometimes we all do the things stated in this article. Sometime we all smell like crap, sometimes we all behave like little kids, etc, sometime we all have bad temper. We have to look at the big picture and understand that if the behavior is not the norm, then is better to spend energy on something more productive. Now, if that behavior is a pattern, then taking action to stop them from continuing is a most, you can dump the person if she or he does not get it. The article fail in not saying that perfection is not good to strive for and also the things stated in this article are bad when they are a habit, sometimes we all do them, dont we?

  44. emil says:

    why can’t females JUST take is as we are, as we have to do with them and more after we get hitched? females need to be MORE REALISTIC!!!!!!!!

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  46. nameless says:

    I often find blogs directed to women regarding their behavior and what we must do as women to change our ways to get the man. For some of us, it can take many years and decades to like ourselves to the point where the self love creates empathy to create the right space for a man to feel loved, secure enough to love us back.

    Slow down, say less, do less, listen, and please be patient. Do not bail at the drop of a hat and kindly be kind.


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  49. jess says:

    i think if a man doesnt like you crying its because he associates it with the wrong reasons,probably because the women he knows did it for the wrong reasons.I never cried in front of my husband for the first 5 years we were married,i still dont,but i can tell he wants me to.he wants me to lean on him,cry on his shoulder because it would make him feel manly and protective.and thats how it should be.My husband actually gets turned on if he catches me crying.I am learning how to let him in now,but im just saying that men can love to see you cry,if you dont abuse it.cry alone for a while,think through your feelings then discuss how you feel with him,he can learn to treasure your emotions.

  50. Sidney says:

    My guy is forever making fun at my expense and I hate it. I don’t do it to him. Any ideas how I can get him to stop that one?

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  52. Chris says:

    Men have learned to have selected hearing. My wife wants me to view 10 blouses she has purchased. I really don’t care as this not at all important to me. Same as what kind of flowers are in the yard. Why can’ they understand. I play along but these items, I just do not care. Same as painting the house inside, do white, eggshell white, black red or whatever. I have never gone against her choice. I do get irritated when I am working in the garage, my only sanctuary, and she has to come out and discuss some items I have no interest in. I respect her wishes and I wish she would recepricate. I still love her but some things never change. thanks

  53. jaison says:

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