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15 Reasons I’m Glad My Kids Have a Sister

By Kacy Faulconer |

There are many advantages to having a sister. I’m lucky to have three sisters. I’ve also got 2 daughters of my own and I think they play an important role in our family.

“Even after you account for parents’ influence, siblings do matter in unique ways,” said Padilla-Walker, who teaches in BYU’s School of Family Life. “They give kids something that parents don’t.”

Sometimes people wonder how parents continue to give their full attention to each child as they add kids to the family. We don’t! But siblings have unique relationships with each other that benefit them differently than their relationship with their parents.

Click through to see why I’m glad my kids have sisters.

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15 Reasons I'm Glad My Kids Have a Sister

Sisters promote kindness

This BYU study found that having a loving sister or brother promotes good deeds like watching out for other kids at school. In fact, loving siblings fostered charitable attitudes more than loving parents did. The relationship between sibling affection and good deeds was twice as strong as that between parenting and good deeds.
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Still bugged by the bickering? Padilla-Walker offers this encouraging advice, “For parents of younger kids, the message is to encourage sibling affection. Once they get to adolescence, it’s going to be a big protective factor.” They might be fighting over Polly Pockets now, but they’ll help each other get through rough patches later in life.

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5 thoughts on “15 Reasons I’m Glad My Kids Have a Sister

  1. Melinda says:

    I couldn’t agree with this more. I only have two children, one boy, one girl. They are the best of friends and I feel that having each other will totally prepare them for their adult relationships. Also, my husband has a twin sister and I have always felt that he is such a great partner because he was paired with his sister for his entire childhood.

  2. dede says:

    I married a man who had only brothers. He had no idea what he was getting into. It would have helped him a lot if he’d had a sister (IMHO).

  3. robin says:

    i don’t have a sister, so i am so glad i have two daughters. the sister dynamic is totally new to me and i’m figuring out as they’re figuring it out! also, i never minded being sisterless until i had two girls. NOW i see what i missed out on!

  4. Sam says:

    Unfortunately, I think this article was stupid. In the sense of it being “sisterly.” It made all great points, but all those points are due to the fact of having a sister. It was because the child had siblings. That is also to say that sibling-less children aren’t capable of all these things either (because it really boils down to parenting and the child’s ability and speed to learn and be empathic). My brothers and I have no sisters. There are four of us and by the time I was 8 I learned how to change, bottle, and feed toddlers as my youngest brother is 10 years younger than me. My parents worked two jobs each to support our family and on most days they would come in and sleep and wake up prepare some food before on their way out and the other parent would come in to do the same routine (sleep,eat, work)… Granted that is no longer the case and my two younger brothers didn’t have to fill in to be “mom” or “dad”… boys are as capable. Watch princess movies? Play house? We didn’t exactly do that but we did watch cartoons and Disney movies a lot. Play house? We were already doing it in real life. Birds and bees are always awkward regardless if boy or girl… but as a parent you have to be comfortable and well informed. My parents never got embarrassed talking to us about such things, they would flat out say it and then warn us usually with the “look at us. You wouldn’t to live like us.” Warning… though when I was younger I never realized my parents felt bad for raising us in such a way, but now that I’m older I wished then I was smart enough to tell them that I was never sad or angry at them for having a family in “that type of situation.” Sisters break down stereotypes… like the ones you are trying to pass off on your list? Guess, you needed a sister… or maybe a brother. Helping you choose a spouse? Because having a sister makes you understand women. Because all women are alike…. just like a sister. True, when we were younger my brothers and I rarely talked to our parents but we did talk to each other a lot too. We did not need a sister for conversation, serious or fun. Yes, we fought physically at times when we were younger, but my brothers and I were each other’s confidant also. We also learned to recognize that the things we say affects other and learn recognize what the other cares for, that say my younger brother truly did care about soccer and it wasn’t just a faze even though we wasn’t an “expert” (sucked at it) on it and my younger brothers learned that I truly did want to be an artist and wasn’t just going through an artsy faze. Sue we made fun of each other and called each other names, but after awhile we realize hey, that’s who he is and that’s okay. Show affection? Guys show affection too. It may not be the same way girls do. The one hand shake and pat on that back, that means something. Like the descriptoe says, “[guys] don’t abide by the same rules. Its’ not a conscientious mother that raises a gentleman. It a conscientious parent or guardian. If both parents preach the same thing, a child will pick up the notion and meaning with ease and with more likely hood. Single parents? Well there’s only one person raising a family so the rules are fairly consistent. It’s not just the mom. I guess brothers are only friends until they’re 18 and that are arch nemesis villains to each other. Sisters prevent loneliness? Yeah so does having brothers… hence there’s a reason why kids with siblings are not called “only” child. Confidence? Yeah my brothers give me that too. We gave each other support and told each other to go for what we want. Why not? And while we’re at it, be bull headed about it. Don’t sulk and whine. Fear? Well, with such support there isn’t much to fear. Kindness? Well that sentence that follows your excerpt does well to include both boys and girls… unfortunately your title does not. So basically your excuses to have a sister is just a gendered stereotype of why you should have a girl. Yeah, so much for removing stereotypes. So again like I said before, it’s stupid. Now if you were to change that to “15 Reasons I’m Glad My Kids Have a Sibling.” Then I can applaud you. Then again, I know many single child kids (both adults and some still children) who are kind, passionate, and understanding people – male or female.

    1. Kacy Faulconer says:

      You make a lot of good points, Sam. The benefits of having a sibling cross gender lines, which is why I also wrote a post about the 15 reasons I’m glad my kids have brothers. I think you’d like it. . . but you might think it’s stupid. I didn’t grow up with brothers. Thanks for giving me a taste!

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