Your kids just came back with their final report cards these past few weeks. I’m sure there was lots of applauding, congratulating, and a few conversations about ‘certain areas’ that need work.
Since we’re in a period of reflection and re-assessing things that need work with our kids, why not take a pause to reflect on how things are going in your family?
Michele Borba is a parenting expert and has appeared on Dr Drew, The Today Show, Dr Phil, Dateline, and more. She has written more than 22 books tackling everything from children to teens to parenting to bullying and moral development.
A recent blog entry had her explaining 10 Simple Parenting Changes That Make A Big Difference.
What would your report card say on the following parenting ideas?
Increase Quality Family Time 1 of 10Borba says you don't need a lot of time, but it needs to be focussed and free from distraction. She encourages we make it an 'unplugged' time where people are actually talking to each other.
Don’t overextend so you have more family time 2 of 10
More positive morning send-offs 3 of 10
Stop being “The Negotiator” 4 of 10
Boost exercise to reduce stress 5 of 10Getting exercise is a great release and a chance to blow off steam. If you're finding it hard to mix in with your family time, Borba says why not combine the two?
Wean kids off rewards 6 of 10Instead of using rewards as praise, use praise as a reward. Borba says you can do a simple switch in your phrasing. Instead of saying "I'm proud of you", tell your kids "You should be proud ..." You'll be giving them self-confidence instead of entitlement.
Reduce family yelling 7 of 10
Regular family connection 8 of 10
Nurture self-esteem 9 of 10As mentioned before, itemized rewards don't create character. Borba says to add the word "because" when you praise your kids. It not only tells them to be proud, but why they should be satisfied with their performance and they'll know exactly how to repeat the action.
Focus on the positive 10 of 10If you're in a nagging rut, Borba says to try and focus on the positive. Pick a few rays of sunshine in that storm and try to find something to build on and change the situation.
I know I could work on more than a few of those areas. It takes up to 21 days to make a change and have it be ‘the new normal’. Why not pick a few and try to change your behaviour over the summer months?
Increased quality family time, weaning off rewards, and focusing on the positive will be the goals for my summer. What are yours?
via Michele Borba
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