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8 Things Not to Say to a Parent Whose Child Is In Speech Therapy

When my daughter was 3 years old she started speech therapy. By that point, I’d been concerned about her speech and language development for a better part of a year. She wasn’t speaking as much as her peers, her language wasn’t coming in the bursts that I’d seen my friends’ kids exhibit and down deep inside I knew that she needed help.

What I didn’t realize is how difficult it would be to get other members of my family on board. Some thought that if she lagged behind a bit then she would eventually catch up, with or without intervention, a possibility that the experts we consulted with couldn’t exclude. Others suggested that I was seriously over-reacting, holding my first child to an impossible standard of development that didn’t allow for a time lag.

Eventually I listened to what was in my heart and we started speech therapy with our daughter. I have no doubt that it was indeed the correct choice for her, and she’d made strides within months. (She is now 14 years old and very, very chatty. VERY.)

But I never forgot the comments that some people made when they learned that my daughter was in speech therapy. While many people were supportive, others said things that were hurtful, even when they were coming from a good place of wanting to be helpful and sympathetic.

  • Give It Time! 1 of 8
    Give It Time!
    "Oh, give it time, she'll grow out of it!" I know that my friends tried to alleviate my anxiety, but time is of the essence in getting a child speech therapy support that she needs.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Einstein Didn’t Talk Until He Was Four! 2 of 8
    Einstein Didn't Talk Until He Was Four!
    There's some disagreement as to whether Einstein didn't speak until he was three years old or four years old or whether the whole thing is hogwash, but most of parents would probably agree that what may have worked for Einstein may not work for our children.
    Photo Credit: Wiki
  • She’s Just Quiet! Why Do You Want to Change Her Personality? 3 of 8
    She's Just Quiet! Why Do You Want to Change Her Personality?
    I never wanted to change my daughter's personality. Nor could I. But having speech issues is not a personality trait.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Maybe You Should Spend More Time Talking to Her 4 of 8
    Maybe You Should Spend More Time Talking to Her
    Talk to my child?! Isn't there something a bit less drastic?! I'm rolling my eyes at this one.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • When Do You Think She’ll Be Normal? 5 of 8
    When Do You Think She'll Be Normal?
    I hope she will always be who she is. But I hope the speech therapy helps her express herself better and soon. You should try it.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Do These Problems Run in Your Family or Her Father’s? 6 of 8
    Do These Problems Run in Your Family or Her Father's?
    Thank you for the genetic interest. Does it really matter?
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • You’re So Lucky! I Wish My Kid Was Quiet Like Yours! 7 of 8
    You're So Lucky! I Wish My Kid Was Quiet Like Yours!
    There's looking on the bright side and then there's horrific insensitivity.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • If You Had More Kids, You’d Focus Less on These Little Problems 8 of 8
    If You Had More Kids, You'd Focus Less on These Little Problems
    I hope that I'd address my child's issues no matter how many children I had.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile

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