Admittedly, I’m a little stingy when it comes to birthdays – yes, even my kids’.
It’s not that I don’t want to celebrate the momentous occasions of my children’s births, I just can’t get over the excess of it all. Relax, I’m not the kind of person who’s going to insist we celebrate Christmas in April in protest of commercialism or anything like that, I just really feel that just because we can spoil our kids, doesn’t mean we should.
But even though this is the way birthdays have always been around these parts, it doesn’t mean that it’s easily understood by my kin. So on the occasion of BooBoo’s 6th birthday last week, decisions had to be made. When asked back in July what he wanted to do for his birthday, BooBoo presented me with a hefty birthday list and the desire to have a big party at an indoor inflatable jumper facility. “Oh Honey, that sounds like a lot of fun,” I said, “But this list of presents along with a birthday party is going to cost a lot of money. You’re going to have to decide what matters to you more, the presents on this list or a birthday party.”
Between you and me, we very well could have done both, but $300+ for a party?! That’s half my grocery budget for the month! Behold my delicate financial sensibilities! And while BooBoo’s happiness in incredibly important to me, I couldn’t help but think of all the parents who can’t afford these kinds of parties for their kids. Do their children grow up feeling any less loved? I think not. So was this where the guilt was supposed to come in? Just because we could afford to host this party, we should? I didn’t think so.
BooBoo’s decision was a tough one, no doubt. We went back and forth on what the gift situation would be, with and without a party, and how he’d still be getting presents from the friends he invited, but that those gifts wouldn’t be anything like the items on his wish list; ultimately BooBoo decided his birthday list was more important.
That’s not to say his birthday wasn’t special! Take a look at BooBoo’s simply sensational birthday!