There is one week left of summer vacation before my kids head back to school. This year will be different as I will be sending Speed full time now, he will be gone 5 days out of the week. Raru is still going part time and little Bean has one more year left at home.
It’s been a crazy summer. We had a lot of fun, a few struggles and the balance of them all being home while I am working has been a little challenging.
I wrote a post earlier this month sharing 2 questions I am asked as a work-from-home mom and why they drive me crazy. The first one was “how do you do it all” and some people seemed to legitimately want to know the answer, or the secret.
I do very much believe that we can ‘do it all’ — it’s important for us to be happy to model that for our children and we are people too. I do think I have found the ‘secret’ to how to feel like I have and can do it all and it’s not really that hard.
So, you want to know the secret?
I lower my expectations.
It’s that simple. It’s that important and best of all, it’s working.
I don’t have a magazine-perfect clean house, but it’s definitely liveable. I have a small backlog of laundry, but we have clothes in our closets. I don’t always get to read 15 books a day to the kids, but we do make time to cuddle and read. I don’t take them out on many play dates and still feel they are too young for structured activities.
My husband and I work to balance the at-home work load and our kids are now at an age where they are really being helpful in terms of keeping the house tidy.
There are days where they will watch 2 movies in a row so I can work in the same room. I lower my expectations and voice in my head that doing so makes me a bad mom, because it doesn’t.
It’s working well for us and thankfully I love what I do for work and for home and I think that makes a big difference too.
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