It’s 2012 and the choice debate has reared up again. Bizarre, I thought we had settled this years ago.
Still, a number of articles have had me doing some self-reflection on the choice issue. This NYT piece ponders what “Pro Life” really means, while a Mommyish author comes out on the side of non-parent approved birth control. Then you have the campaign headlines following the likes of Mourdock, Romney, and Akin that seems to have stirred this whole mess up again.
So, I find myself doing an inventory of how I feel on the issue of choice and it boils down to one thing: it’s none of my damn business.
When it comes to pregnancy, whether a woman chooses to deliver or not is none of my business. Firstly, I’m a man and have no concept of what it’s like to have your body become host for another being. The fact so many men stand up to challenge the reproductive rights laws baffles me. Just like the people with dogs who tell us how to raise our kids, unless you have a womb you shouldn’t get a vote.
So you could say I am Pro Choice. By offering the fact I have no right to dictate reproductive rights I am, by default, indicating the choice should be up to the person facing that decision.
But there is a wrinkle in my conscience.
My wife is adopted. Her mother was still a high school teen in the summer of 1969 when she was conceived. That woman had a choice, and she chose to give her daughter life. She chose to not only give life to that baby, but give her the life she could not have provided for her.
My wife and I talk about that decision often. The decision to go through with a pregnancy and then hand the baby over to a new family. What courage that must take.
35 years later, my wife would find her in a similar position as the woman who had given birth to her. She would find herself unmarried, and pregnant. And, like her birth mother, she chose life.
It is not my position to tell you how to choose, other than to support you have the right to choose. Still, I am thankful to the two women who chose life and gave me this family I have today.
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