There is a great image circulating on the Internet this week of a Dad’s note to his son after overhearing him telling a friend of his plans to come out to his parents. The father’s note is a study in acceptance, understanding and demonstrating that life goes on for gay kids the same as for straight ones. He deserves a round of applause for sending a message of unconditional love. Here’s the note:
But…and yes I feel like an ass for having a but for this particular story…do you think he maybe stole his son’s moment? I don’t know the details of this family’s interpersonal dynamics at all and maybe this is absolutely typical of how the father and son interact. Maybe the son saw the note, smiled over “Dad being Dad” and tucked it away in a scrapbook to keep forever.
But what if the son really wanted that movie moment of sitting his parents down and saying the big words “I’m gay.”? That’s an act of courage, even if he was sure his parents would react with nothing but love. He may have scripted the scene in his head for days -or years – and lost the opportunity to live it out. It almost feels like the girl who finds out her boyfriend is going to propose on the weekend so on Friday she texts him “OMG! Yes!”. It’s the right reaction done the wrong way.
Like I say, I don’t know enough to say for sure that the dad jumped the gun in a disappointing way for the son. I just know that if it were me, I probably would have chosen to let the scene play out as my child intended. And I definitely would have reminded him to pick up bread and OJ just like that dad did. Because that was awesome.
Photo credit: FCKH8.com
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