Do You Insist on "Thank You?"

My husband and I have had this discussion before. I believe strongly that after each meal, the children should thank me or their father (or whoever prepared the meal) for the meal. A simple “thanks!” suffices as they leave the table. My husband, on the other hand, feels that asking them to thank us for the food, is similar to having them thank us for paying for the mortgage, their clothes and other necessaries. He thinks that as parents, we are supposed to provide certain things for them and they don’t need to thank us.


I see his point, but I disagree with it. Of course I don’t expect my children to stand in the corner as I pay the bills and mutter “thank you!” as I pay each vendor. But I feel meals are different. We sit together, be share food, we talk, laugh (and yes, sometimes we argue.) At the end of the meal, everyone says “thank you.” Or “this was great!” or “delicious!” or “Marinka, you should write cookbooks and be the next and much more beautiful Julia Child.” (Disclaimer: Some quotes may have been enhanced to make a point, ok?!) Even I, who prepared the meal, will thank my family. For their company, for their conversation, for the fact that I have a family that I love so much that I am able to share meals with on a daily basis. For the love and the comfort that I take for granted—I thank them. And yes, maybe I’m thanking more than them, maybe I’m thanking the universe for making it possible. But an offering up of thanks after the meal seems very satisfying to  me.

And since my kids have been little, I’ve insisted that they do it too.

Because I think it’s the right thing to do.

What do you think? Do you insist your kids say thanks after a meal?

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For more of Marinka, visit her personal blog Motherhood in NYC and The Mouthy Housewives, where she doles out advice as though it were candy. Mmm … candy. Also, follow her on Twitter.

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