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Do You Make Time for You Every Week?

By Devan McGuinness |

Do You Make Time for You Every Week?I have found a good balance and routine around here. Speed and Raru are in school and I am enjoying the time with Bean. I have work and house chores down to a routine. I make time for cuddles and reading with each child. I make sure I put some time aside to spend with the husband every night and with larger chunks on the weekend. We are busy, but I believe that we have a good balance.

That was until I realized one big thing missing in that delicate balance — me.

I don’t make any time for myself and I think that is something a lot of us struggle with. I put everyone and everything ahead of myself an I know that one day — it may cause some big issues.

There is this saying that a happy mom means a happy house and that we have to take care of ourselves to take care of others. I am really starting to feel the toll of putting myself at the bottom and I am hoping to do better adding me into the priority list.

I struggle with the guilt I feel if I leave something for my husband to do or if I go do something for me I somehow feel the need to justify it beyond just wanting to be with me. My husband has been encouraging me for quite some time to make more time for me and I think that will be a goal of mine that I am going to work on. It may take a while to get it right, but I think it’s important, right?

Tell me in the comments, do you make time for you every week? What do you do and how do you carve out the time?

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Devan McGuinness

Devan McGuinness is the writer of the lifestyle blog Accustomed Chaos. After surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan founded Unspoken Grief, a resource and support site for perinatal and neonatal loss. Read bio and latest posts → Read Devan's latest posts →

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2 thoughts on “Do You Make Time for You Every Week?

  1. stacy says:

    I really really try to do this as much as I can… b/c i know & hubby knows- if i don’t… i’m not to fun to be around.. i have to be able to calm my brain & NOT be doing something for someone else for a bit; I get my nails done every 2 wks on tues nights at 8pm.. it’s nice – guarantee night he puts them to bed for me & i get that time to feel better. I run– whenever i can fit it in- he took both boys to one of their soccer practices last night just so i could stay home & straighten up the house & go for a run where i wasn’t pressed for time. next week is my bday on wed.. i’m taking a vacation day from work so that i can spend the entire day doing whatever i want while the kids are in school & hubby is at work.. i canNOT wait!

  2. Crystal T says:

    I am sooo guilty of not making time for myself. I chose to work nights and weekends so that I can be at home with my little boy during the day and sometimes I wonder if I made the right choice, because I feel like I never have a second to breathe. The only time I get is when I take a long shower. I haven’t even been to the salon in over a year! So yeah I think that is why I am grumpy alot and need to take that time for myself so I can be happier and therefore my family is happier.

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