Feeling Confident in Motherhood Comes and GoesDevan McGuinness
There are days where everything seems to be working against me. Work deadlines piling up, the kids have destroyed the living room and I am behind (like, really behind) on the laundry.
There are days where my kids are fighting constantly and decide that listening to me is optional and the noise just escalates.
There are days where all I hear are complaints, what’s not right, what I’m doing wrong, and it seems like no matter how hard I try, nothing is going the way that I planned.
These days come and go frequently when you’re raising kids. I get the second-guesses if I’ve made the right decision, knowing that it can have a huge impact on their future. I look back at the earlier years and wish perhaps I had the perspective then that I have now.
It’s so easy to question my choices and decisions when it comes to something so monumentally important. A huge thing that has no universal handbook to give us all the right answers — to be able to see the future and know what to expect.
As someone who likes to know what’s coming up and never wishes to fail at anything, moments like these can really rock my confidence.
In the past 7 years of motherhood, I have had many moments where I was unsure and my confidence wavered. I have also had many moments where I was totally at ease and gave myself a pat on the back for the great job I’m doing. I have come to realize that if my heart is in the right place (which it is) and I look at the situation with a smile on my face, no matter what, everything will work itself out.
In those moments where my kids seem to be losing their mind over who knows what and the chaos around me is overwhelming, I remind myself it’s not always like this. In the rare, quite moments where I stare at my kids who are lovingly reading a book together, comforting each other when they get hurt, and having genuine belly laughs, in those moments I am shown just what kind of Mother I am … and that’s good enough for me.
:: How do you remind yourself that you’re doing a great job? ::
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