Ever since we got our first real jobs out of college my husband has commuted. An hour on the 405 when he worked for Price Waterhouse in Los Angeles. Two hours round-trip when he worked in Salt Lake City.
And now he travels to Phoenix for a week every other week in order to bring home the bacon. He’s gone a full two weeks every month.
Listen, I’m glad he has a job and I’m glad I have a husband. My mom worked full time and was a single mom for quite a while. That’s hard. But having a spouse who travels a lot kinda stinks.
There are some benefits–Primarily among them, a pay check. Another benefit is that when my husband is home he is really hands-on and great. It’s a treat. We text and keep in touch throughout the day through Facebook and blog comments. It’s pretty romantic.
I think the kids do OK without him. They miss him, but he is always reachable. Since he is so involved when he’s here, I don’t think they feel fatherless. It was harder when they were little and they had to “warm up” to him every time he left and came back. I imagine that is one of the hardest parts for military families–staying close during deployment.
Does your spouse travel for work? Is your husband deployed? How do you make it all work? Are we all jealous of those ladies who get after their DH if he comes through the door a single minute past 5pm?
Everyone is hustling to do their best, make ends meet, and keep their families together. Sometimes that means time away from home. Let me know what works for your family in the comments.