One of the not-so-fun parts of parenting happens when our role takes on the part of the disciplinarian. It’s one of the more important aspects of parenting, but it also happens to be one of parts I fear the most. Sounds silly, I know.
I grew up in a house where I never heard a lot of yelling. I had my fair share of getting into trouble, but I can’t remember a time where my parents really yelled. If you were to ask me to ‘yell’ it would probably sound closer to someone raising their voice, because that’s what I grew up understanding what ‘being yelled at’ was.
I have a great relationship with my parents and I know a lot of that has to do with the way they parented me and my siblings. I have no weird ‘daddy issues’ or ‘mommy issues’ stemming from my childhood, and I really want my kids to look back at their childhood and feel the same way — that the were treated with respect, love and understanding.
I don’t want to be a pushover though either (not saying at all my parents were), so I take my role of disciplinarian very seriously. I also want to be respectful of my kids and speak to them in a way that will facilitate them actually listening to me. I wont say that I do it perfectly every time — I certainly have my moments, but putting into place a few things before you discipline your kids can help smooth along the talk you’re about to have.
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