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I Admit It: I Didn't Want My Son to Have a September 11th Birthday

By Lori Garcia |

September 12, 2007

My son will turn 5 years old tomorrow, September 12th. I like to pretend sheer force of will and an iron cervix kept him baking until I gave him permission to be born the following morning.

I suffered from hypertension throughout my pregnancy and since my baby was past the 37 week gestation mark, my midwife wanted to kick start labor naturally with a membrane stripping on that fateful September 11, 2007 prenatal appointment.

It worked. Within minutes of arriving home, my contractions began.

There I was, at home eating tacos and weeping between contractions. I was weeping for two reasons: All I wanted to do was finish my tacos and second, I didn’t want to have a baby born on September 11th. When I posted as much on my online birth club board, I was ripped to shreds by the many women who were not only due that day, but were pretty sure they wouldn’t be giving birth any time soon. And just in case you didn’t know, hell hath no fury like a woman past her due date. You have no idea.

I was told stuff like, “You should BE so lucky to have a baby on this beautiful day of hope for America!” and “How COULD you say that?! September 11th is somebody’s birthday!” I knew September 11th was somebody’s birthday, it was my favorite Aunt Carol’s birthday! I also knew September 11th brought our nation together in hope and patriotism and changed the history and heart of America forever. Hell, September 11, 2001 was the very reason I decided to have my first son. Still, I didn’t want my son to be born on 9/11 and I guess the only thing wrong with that was saying as much out loud.

I understood and value the importance of this day as a proud and faithful American, but I wasn’t the only woman in the labor & delivery ward that September 11, 2007 fighting her labor. Two nurses, an anesthesiologist, and my midwife all said the same thing, “Ugh, what a long day of women fighting a 9/11 birthday!”

My son was born the following morning of September 12th on beautiful and safe American soil due to the bravery and dedication of our U.S. military. Blessed be those we lost that fateful September 11, 2001 and blessed be those who will be born safely into our brave nation today.

Obviously I had no control over the date of my child’s birthday and had he been born on September 11th we would have celebrated the blessing of his birth on this day of American patriotism. But yes, on that September 11, 2007, hormonal, laboring, and surprised by notion of giving birth early, it wasn’t what I wanted.

If you were pregnant and hormonal, would you have wanted a 9/11 birthday for your child? Find out what it was like for one mom, here.

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Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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8 thoughts on “I Admit It: I Didn't Want My Son to Have a September 11th Birthday

  1. Elly says:

    I would have taken any date he was born….but no, I wouldn’t have WANTED him to have that specific birthday. People have opinions about what birthdays they want for their children for much shallower reasons (I don’t want to share MY birthday, I don’t want him/her to have joint birthday/Christmas gifts, I want my child to have a birthday during the school year so he can celebrate with his classmates, I want my child to have a summer birthday so she can have a pool party and never have to go to school on her birthday, I don’t want my kid to have the same birthday as rude Uncle So and So) than I don’t want him to have to share his day with one of so much national sadness. It’s not as if you did unsafe things to keep him in or get him out early…that would be a different story (in my mind). Happy birthday to your big guy tomorrow!

    1. mommyfriend says:

      I totally agree Elly. Thanks for the birthday wishes!

  2. stacy says:

    i can COMPLETELY relate… My youngest turned 5 yesterday….
    I was due sept 15th & all i kept thinking was uh oh.. never thought of THAT until the middle of the pregnancy & then it hit me.. oh wow i really didn’t want that date as his bday either.. a variety of reasons. so yes i’ll admit when i started those contractions on sunday night the 10th i had a feeling he’d be here b/f that date & 1:21pm on the 10th he came…….

  3. Emily B. says:

    As a 9/11 baby myself (luckily I can claim is was my birthday long before a day of national tragedy – albeit, 9/11/01 was my long-await 21st birthday!) I have learned to embrace the fact that NO ONE forgets my birthday these days, so should you have a baby born on 9/11 someday (or another infamous date) embrace it as a great reminder to everyone he/she will someday know to remind them that it’s also a day to celebrate!

  4. Kacy Faulconer says:

    And they called her The Iron Cervix. . .

  5. Sylvie says:

    “If you were pregnant and hormonal, would you have wanted a 9/11 birthday for your child?”

    No way. Had the baby been born on that day, OK. But given the choice, no.

  6. Christine.Coppa says:

    gorg pic

    1. mommyfriend says:

      Thanks Christine :) I was crying such happy tears.

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