I Won't Be Talking to My Kids About the Tragedy in CTLori Garcia
It’s a scary world out there. We don’t have to know the victims, have a personal connection to Newtown, or even be a parent to grieve such a senseless tragedy.
When I arrived with a tender and aching heart to pick my kids from school on Friday, I was alarmed to see the entire elementary roped off in yellow police tape. My heart sank further.
The school was in lockdown due to a blown transformer in the parking lot and the school was without power. Indeed innocuous events in the wake of the day’s Newton tragedy, but an unexpected sucker punch to the gut nevertheless.
As my Facebook and Twitter streams flooded with messages of despair, prayers for comfort, and parents hugging their children yet tighter, I began seeing article links about how to talk to your children about the tragedy. While my first instinct was to read the articles, my second instinct was to unplug from technology altogether, spend time with my kids and just not. Not talk about it at all.
My kids hadn’t heard about it. They weren’t asking questions. They were just happy to have me there by their side. As I covertly wiped the steady stream of tears from my eyes, I held them close and spoke silent prayers for the families, communities, and follow brokenhearted souls feeling the devastation of Newtown’s tragedy.
Maybe it wasn’t our town, but it could have been.
Maybe it wasn’t our children, but it could have been.
Maybe it wasn’t our time, but it could have been.
I’m sure there are plenty of valid reasons why I should talk to my kids about the events of Sandy Hook Elementary but I honestly can’t think of one. I’m not in a position to understand it, explain it, or even reassure my kids that something this terrible could never happen to them. They like school. They’re not afraid to be there. They’re hopeful and happy.
If they asked questions I’d try my best to discuss the events the best way I’d know how. But for now, as long as they’re not asking, I’d rather join the nation’s grieving privately.
Have you talked to your kids about the Sandy Hook elementary school tragedy?
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