If You Spank, I Have Some Questions For You

Look, I’ve never spanked my kids and I never will. Well, my youngest is 11 now, so I’m guessing that’s beyond being spankable, right? I don’t know. I don’t believe in spanking as a form of discipline- I don’t think it’s any more effective than a time out,taking away privileges or swinging a dead chicken over one’s head. So I don’t want to pretend that I’m really open minded about it or anything. But I’m trying to be.

I’m still curious.

I’m curious why parents spank.

I’m curious about why you spank.

Do you spank because you’ve found other methods of discipline to be ineffective or do you spank only for some transgressions?

For example, if your child does not do her chores. How do you reprimand for that?

What if there is a bad grade? Uses a rude word in your presence? Otherwise disrespectful?

Is there an age before which you would not spank? Likewise, is there an age after which you would not spank? (I’m referring to your child’s age, here, by the way, not yours.)

Do you spank when you are upset? Or do you defer the spanking until you’re calmer.

Do you talk about the spanking with your child?

How does your child react to the spanking?

Do you and their other parent (whether you are together or not) agree on this method of discipline?

Do you discuss spanking with your friends?

Do you have any questions for parents who don’t spank? (Yes, there are times when I’ve wanted to spank my kids!)

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