I'm Not Waiting for My Son to Grow Out of AutismLisa Quinones-Fontanez
Last month the autism community was buzzing over that new study. You know, the one about kids eventually losing their autism diagnosis.
For the most part, I try to ignore these kind of sensational new studies when they pop up in the news or in social media. But coworkers, friends and some family will ask, “Did you hear about that new study?”
I nod and smile and listen politely as they fill me in. But quite honestly, I am too tired to speculate what caused my son’s autism, and I’m not interested in a cure for him. I’m not praying for him to recover. So my feelings on Norrin “growing out of autism” – I am pretty certain he will not.
I mean, Norrin just turned seven and he’s a big kid – half my height and too heavy to carry. He was diagnosed when he was two. I am extremely proud of the progress he’s made and the milestones we’ve celebrated but Norrin’s a long way from being considered a “typical” kid.
I believe autism will always be a part of him.
And I am okay with that. I love and accept Norrin for the kid he is. Autism adds to his personality, it doesn’t diminish it.
Not expecting Norrin to lose his diagnosis doesn’t mean I’ve lost hope in him. I hope for a lot of things.
I hope that Norrin will grow up to be happy and feel good about himself. I hope that he will grow up and know that he has the capacity to contribute to society. I hope that Norrin grows up knowing that he doesn’t need to be cured or fixed.
I understand why these studies are conducted. But that doesn’t mean I have to give them any power over us. These years are too precious and the time passes too quickly. I don’t want to spend this time waiting for my son to “grow out” of anything.
I want to spend my time enjoying him as he grows up.